All Advise will be appreciated!
I am so glad to have this site as an outsorce. Mike and I are friends on facebook so I cannot use that as a way to vent my feelings due to the fact that he thinks he is causing me too much stress as it is and if he saw some of the things I write on here it would only add to his pain. I love him dearly and would never leave him but I do have some issues that I think he could be a little more supportive of sometimes. For instence:
My grand daughter is 11 yrs old and since she was about 3 until age 9 I was pretty much her rock in the family so to speak. She lived most of her young life with my ex-husband and I until I decided to leave him. At the time I left him her mother has stepped up and was being a parent and I thought all was going to be ok with that issue. However since then she has drifted back into the old lifestyle of drugs and only thinking of herself. My son and his wife who have been married for about 4 years now have no children of thier own but also no income or stable living arrangements, decided to take in my granddaughter at the beginning of school against my plea for them not to do this. Now they have become disscouraged with the arrangement as Ashley being at a very rebellious age will not listen to them nor does she conform with thier rules and punishment. I talked to Mike about letting her come live with us as I am the one that she is use to being there for her but he says he cannot deal with a child that young being in the house. I do understand his reserve on this issue as all his children are grown and he has not been around his own grand children, who are all now either in college or high school since they were small. He has never been one to tolerate young children for more than an hour or so and the thought of having one so young in the house just sends him into fits.
I feel like I have abandoned my grand daughter. It is not her fault her parents are so sorry. She did not ask to be brought into this world.
I have asked my sister to take her. She lives alone in a 3 bedroom house and doesn't have a social life to speak of. She has agreed to do this but I still feel like I should be the one taking her. If I were alone or still with my ex I would not hesitate to take her into my home.
Do I leave the one true love of my life to give my grand daughter a stable place to live with me or do I allow her to live with my sister and shuck my responsebilities as a grandparent?
What say you oh great Net? Tell me what you would do please!
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