3 Weeks in Hell
Buck was doing so well at the hospital 22 days after his brain stem stroke. I was told it was finally time to move him to a nursing home. In Oklahoma I was told by the hospital social worker that there was only 2 nursing homes that would admit a patient with a traek. The best and closest one was two hours away. It was Wellington Hills in Eufaula OK. The director of social services said they were willing to take him even though we did not have insurance. The administrator of the nursing home came to Bucks room and agreed to admit him. A few days before this the nurses had Buck out of bed and actually standing with assistance! Buck and I had worked hard doing PT and OC therapy everyday. He was starting to be able to move one arm and both legs. The nurses were all amazed by our hard work and his amazing progress.
I followed the ambulance to the nursing home. I was only able to visit once a week because it was so far away. The director said they would continue to do range of motion exercises. I called everyday and asked them to tell him I loved him and inquire about his progress. I received so much good news! Shortly after the director called me shouting that he was being evicted because we didn't have insurance. I told him that I was told that he knew that by the social director of the hospital. He continued to shout at me and yelled, "HE'S GOING TO DIE ANYWAY!! Long story short, they never cleaned him and left him to rot in his urine and *beep*. Even though they agreed to have him face the door instead of the wall they never moved him in any way. 5 days ago he was rushed by ambulance to the nearest hospital in Tulsa. The admitting nurse told me she had never seen such a bad case of neglect in her life. He had a huge bed sore and several infections. It took 2 hours just to clean the *beep* off of him. They weren't sure he would survive the night. I was so angry i kicked a hole in my wall and it took two neighbors to hold me down and calm me. He is still alive but is hooked up to 11 IV's and other shots during the day. They never told him I had called once. I'm sure he felt I had abandoned him.
I called the Eufaula police department who refused to file a report as well as the Oklahoma State Police, and Sheriffs office. I finally called a national law firm that after a short investigation has taken the case. 8 years ago my Mom was abused, neglected, and possibly raped by a Tulsa nursing home and barely survived. Two years ago that nursing home agreed to a settlement agreement and we have yet to see a dime. I stayed withher everyday for 8 to 10 hours a day and all of the abuse still happened.
Buck is alive but back in the ICU. Wellington Hills in Eufaula evidently never suctioned his lungs and left him to rot except for the days we visited. He is completely tramatized but finally calming down with me by his side everyday. He is back at square one or worse. God Bless my sweet husband. Today he started trying to move again. We cannot do any therapy due to the massive pain he is in and his injuries. We have to keep him on pain meds and 4 of the strongest antibiotics on the market. Today was the first day that the fluid levels from suctioning his airway has finally diminished. Between fighting to keep him stable in critical condition and working on both law suits I am a mess. What the f*ck is wrong with Oklahoma? I am also busy contacting the media and every official I know. Oklahoma is 49th in the country for the worst care in nursing homes and our VA homes. Please pray for him and spread the word about the horrific treatment of nursing home "care" in Oklahoma. I will not stop until this *beep* director is prosecuted to the full extent of the law.
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