Hard Decision to Make
I really have some big decisions to make and am having a really hard time making them.
The past 1 1/2 weeks have been like living in hell. Chris' insurance pays for an aide to take care of him while I'm working. This woman has been with us since August and everyday is only getting worse. It is like having Hitler with us 40 hours a week. The past week Chris has been very anxious and moody. Finally I got him to tell me what is really going on and he said that he has had all he can handle of this woman.
Without going into a long drawn out story - I have had several discussions with Chris' physician about some of the things that have been going on and she now has advised me to get rid of her. The most recent - she has these dagger fake fingernails and I have found scratches on Chris and lately she is poking him in his private while she is bathing him. I talked to her previously about why she is doing his leg exercises without him having his underware on and only a sheet draped on him and she had no answer for me. This seemed very odd!!!!!! Some of Chris' medications have been changed and he is alittle more tired which the doctor said will wear off within about 2 weeks. She has now started to make statements to him like "do you want me to leave if your not going to do your exercises?" and today she got very angry at him when he had difficulty when using the urinal. She actually raised her voice at him and got very short and abrupt.
In my opinion this is verbal abuse!!!!!!!!!!!! I have tried talking to her several times but when I do she puts up a wall and gets one very nasty attitude about her.
I have been upset about this situation for days now and know that I need to end this working relationship but I just don't know exactly what to say to her supervisor. I know that the truth is the best, but I really don't feel like having any repercussions. I have found out that these agencies no matter what always take the side of their employees. It was suggested to me to get a hidden camera put in Chris' room so that she can be caught in action.
I can't go thru one more day with this person, but at the same time I need to be really careful because I can't go one day without help because I need to keep working. So I am hoping by Friday I can figure all this out and hopefully by Monday have someone else here. My eyes are going to be on her tho for the rest of the week, because she is very sneaky. I have caught her many many times being nasty and when she sees that I have entered the room her tone completely changes. She also has been tellng Chris all her personal problems which Chris does not need to hear - he has enough of his own. I have discussed this situation with many people - people that are very close to us and all have advised me to get rid of her. So hopefully I will have taken care of this problem before another week comes to a close.
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