the whitewash factor
My sub-title line for my blog reads: "Knowing what to forget is just as important as knowing what to remember." I say that because I truly believe that people are happier when we are able to put the detailed memories of our hardships and tradegies to rest and concentrate on the happier times. Sure, we need to work through them, learn our lessons from them, and recognized that our lives are formed by both the good and the bad BUT wearing the bad experiences around like a plate of armor isn't going to make anyone happy in the long run.
this quote of one of Jean's responses to my last blog really does deserve its own blog. hence, i am starting this blog with that quote. if we ever get into divviing up royalties, i promise that i will give Jean half of my royalties from this blog. no lie. i'll even will it to her estate.
Jean, may i respectfully say that even though you say many wise and true things, and that all of the things that you say are said with a lot of thought behind them, this quote is the most....er...tunafish thing that you have penned on line on this board that i have read. as a person who has had the cold hard hard of permanent neurological deficit pass her over not once, but twice, and has had both my dad and my husband caught in its grip, this quote is tunafishy enough to feed lunch to the whoe NYC Public School system for a month. only someone who has never had a traumatic or acquired brain injury can deliberately desire to forget anything.
i don't want to forget anything. i don't want to forget the good, the bad, and the ugly things in my life. this is NOT wearing my bad expereinces around like a plate of armor. i feel that the entire quote is one whole long judgment, which i forgive you for in advance.
i think that putting detailed memories of hardships and tragedies that we have come through and become stronger from is akin to blowing a whole lot of smoke around and up our assorted chimneys. this form of denial is what makes it easier to forget the humanity that binds us all together and leads us down the slippery slope to prejudice, torture, and child abuse.
besides, making people think is part of what makes me happy. life would be very boring if everyone thought the same, believed the same, and mouthed the same old tired platitudes, dont'cha think?
sandy :giggle:
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