Sheila:

I feel much better after seeing your blog, I know few friends of mine keep on complaing about their pain and how they are overworked, gets me so annoyed sometime cmon deal with the life people are far worse off than you are. I know I should not minimize their pain but hello wake up smell the coffee and look around you. that's wh I make a point of not complaing about my problems, bad thing happened I have to deal with it, I m still in the game og my life

Asha (stroked at 34 too and now 36)

Thanks Asha for understanding what I am trying to convey. I almost hated to write this post for fear as they might find out how I really feel, eventhough I have never invited them to this site. But it is a lot deeper than just what I posted and I almost feel selfish for not being more sympathic(sp). My age is constrantly compared to theirs and that is supposed to make a difference in my recovery...for "CRYING OUT LOUD" all they need is a scope of the knee with debridement while I had a stroke. I use to be a scrub nurse before I became an RN and we use to do those several a day, and it's an outpatient procedure.

Just thanks for taking the time to respond. Positive feedback makes me feel better and not so guilty.

Shelia

I CAN SO SO SO SO SO SO SO RELATE.

I AM A LITTLE OVER TWO YEARS POST STROKE AND AM MERCIFULLY DIVORCED FROM THE WORST HYPOCHONDRIAC ON THE PLANET EARTH. WAH WAH WAH WAH. HE HAD EVERY AILMENT KNOWN TO MANKIND AFTER THE STROKE I HAD. ( BEFORE TOO, BUT IT GOT WORSE)

SOMETIMES I WANTED TO KICK HIM INTO NEXT WEEK. I *****NEVER COMPLAINED********* I JUST PUSHED AND WENT ON AFTER THAT DEVASTATION TO MY LIFE. HE NEVER EVEN TOOK A MOMENT OF TIME TO LOOK ANYTHING UP ABOUT MY "CONDITION". WHEN WE GOT SEPARATED HE WAS DEVASTATED, COULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY.

I TRIED GENTLY TO EXPLAIN THAT HE HAD NO CLUE, WAS NO HELP, AND DIDN'T APPEAR TO CARE. HIS RESPONSE" WELL THE DOCTOR SAID I **MAY** HAVE A BRAIN TUMOR AND SHOW STROKELIKE SYMPTOMS". MY FEELING, ALTHOUGH I COULDN'T BE MEAN ENOUGH TO SAY IT......."GOOD".

IN OUR ELEVEN YEARS OF MARRIAGE HE HAD THE FOLLOWING, WHICH BTW, NEVER WAS "PROPERLY" DIAGNOSED.

ALSO, THERE WAS SO MUCH, I MAY LEAVE SOME STUFF OUT

1) ALLERGIES TO ABOUT 100 THINGS FROM CAT DANDER TO NUTS, BREAD PRODUCTS, ETC.

2) ALLERGIES TO GRASS AND ALL PLANT LIFE

3) NERVOUS STOMACH

4) KROHN'S DISEASE

5) IBS

6) HIVES AND ITCHING

7) PROSTATE PROBLEMS, SO CALLED, DID'NT "SLOW HIM UP"

8) NASAL AND SINUS PROBLEMS

9) POSSIBLE MULTIPLE SCLEROSIS

10) HEART MURMUR

11) PANIC ATTACKS

12) ARTHRITIS

13) SCHOLEOSIS OF THE SPINE

14) SEVERE FATIGUE

15) MIGRAINES

16) CARPUL TUNNEL SYNDROME ( HE BOUGHT A CHEAP BLUE VELCRO "CAST" FROM A PHARMACY AND THE SOUND OF HIM RIPPING IT OFF SSSSCCCCRRRRAAATCCCCH************* WOULD WAKE THE DEAD.

GOOD LORD THE LIST GOES ON SO MUCH IT IS HEAD REELING

I MIGHT ADD, HE HAS ****NEVER BEEN DIAGNOSED AND ACTUALLY TREATED FOR ANYTHING******* IT'S ALWAYS I "MIGHT" HAVE THIS, ETC.

THE HATEFUL AH EVEN TOOK SOME OF MY MEDICATION AFTER THE STROKE FOR HIMSELF LIKE STOMACH ( PRESCRIPTION) ANTACIDS TO REDUCE MY PAIN OF THE MEDS, AND THE ALAPROZAM FOR MY NEUROLOGICAL TREMORS.

I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE.

I FEEL YOUR PAIN

KIM ( OR I "FELT" IT)

Shelia,

Don't you think you feel guilty about expressing these feelings cause of who it is and how you feel about her on a good day? It is all conditioning girl friend..... Sandy and I and you could have a field day discussing these women that drive us crazy that are in our life.

But I've been told we all own our own feelings, therefore they have a validity cause they are our feelings. Anyway we can shove another bed into the nursing home room, Sandy and I decided our mothers deserve to be room mates and your welcome to add your mother too. That would be some interestingly diverse room.....

Just be glad that you found out that you have real inner strength and you are the definition of a survivor.

Pam

Speaking about my mother, ladies.....

my dad, who is a survivor, had a new bedsore on his leg which is healing. the circulation on his lower legs is almost nonexistent so he gets bedsores there that heal slowly. he can only take tylenol because he doesn't have enough brain cells left to not have narcotics or ultram put him into a coma, and he is on coumadin so he can't take NSAIDs. when talking to my mom yesterday, she was complaining about how he screams when she changes the dressing daily. i said, "that's because he's in so much pain." she replied, "well, i'm in pain, too, with my arthritis." i replied, "but you can take codeine or other drugs, he can't." she replied, "but i can only take one codeine at a time, and i'm in a lot of pain from my arthritis." at this point, i gently told her off and changed the sibject.

let's get these mothers to the nursing home now.....

sandy

My, my, my...How did you read between the lines? I can't even comment any further, but mines is about to drive me crazy. She trys really hard (sometimes, I think) not to say the things that she know will irrate me, but the comparison of illness with age really gets me going. I stopped taking antidepressants about a month and a half ago, but let me add that I had to start back taking them about a week ago...need I say more! I try to deal with the things she says with a open mind and just let it slide, but I can only take some much.

Are you sure there is room for another bed at that nursing home? Welcome back Pam.

Shelia :forgive_me?:

Hi,

You can all reserve room for my motherinlaw

I can certainly relate your concerns sgriffin.

Take care

lorrainelm