Lynn,

I know I can't say anything to make it better so I'm just sending a cyber hug.

:friends: Jean

LYNN,

BEING THE CAREGIVER ***AND **** IN PHYSICAL PAIN YOURSELF, FORCED TO WORK FOR HEALTH BENEFITS AND INCOME, NOT HAVING THE EMOTIONAL SUPPORT FROM ROD YOU SO LEANED ON IN THE PAST WHICH IS HE UNABLE TO GIVE, AND BEING SO FAR AWAY FROM FAMILY?.

I THINK YOU HAVE EARNED A WELL DESERVED PITY PARTY.

LOVE YA

KIM

It is definately hard, watching out for Rod, trying to keep everything going and then having pain you are trying to deal with...

There maybe others worse off,... but these are the "things" you are dealing with and it is difficult. Pain is grinding, nervewracking and can get to you...

can't say much else.. but can send you some {{{{{HUGS}}}} Bonnie

Lynn,

Hope you don't mind if those of us who care and feel your pain crash your pity party. We can be a shoulder to lean on!!

It's not an easy job, but hang in there and know that guardian angels are watching over you!!!

Sarah

Lynn:

pity party is great once in a while but remember this there is higher power and angels r there to take care of you and Rod, It is ok to feel depressed, but keep the faith tomo will be another day and things you are worrying about today won't come true, for pain will any pain killers help.

lots of hugs

Asha

Thanks Everybody, I really appreciate all your thoughts

I was really down and in a lot of pain. I hate taking the pain pills and I guess I waited too long to take them. I decided today to take them regularly from now on and not to wait till I am in pain. I have been talking to people to get some help. I have spent so much of my time being independant. I think I have to learn to trust that some people will come through. I just wish I could talk to Rod and he could help me make decision like he use to.

Lynn

Put me on the list of people who would like their husbands to help in the decision making. Ray has no opinions, no preferences, cannot make a choice, rarely vioces a view. I don't know whether it is damage from the last stroke or whether it is the vascular dementia. :juggle:

Maybe this is the part of life where you have to "be your own best friend". That means among other things taking your own advice. So work out what needs doing and tell yourself you have the strength and ability to do it and go ahead and do it. :cheer:

We are here as back-up if you want and second, third, fourth opinion.

Sue. :chat: