Measuring Sticks
My thoughts this morning are on measuring sticks......Meaning how we each percieve our strokes and how we as indivuals measure how bad we were hit. Who's to say that the survivor that had a mild stroke, bounced right back and bopped back to work within weeks or less as some continue on with their pre stroke life as if the stroke never happened. They are still stroke survivors and I am not denying that fact with what I'm trying to say. Those are the ones that are lucky. Luckier then the rest of the survivors on this site who are wheelchair bound or using walkers or canes. I'm drawing a line in the sand cause I read one too many posts this morning about how they weren't hit to hard, but yet the tone of what they wrote smells of pity and looking for sympathy. Well I think those with milder strokes may just feel personally how devestating a stroke is and I agree it is. But it also annoys me to hear how bad they have it yet they are carrying on as if it never happened. Then you have the flip side of the coin with all the surviors who can't walk or use only one arm. That group of survivors has to fight and claw and scratch their way back to some semblence of a normal life, That group is prodded, motivated and pushed to go beyond any of their physical limitations. That group also has a tendency to be content with what they can achieve and get back after losing it all physically.
What I'm trying to say is this- we all have different measuring sticks, we all are hit differently and recover differently. Before you get so self absorbed in what happened to you with a milder type of stroke, before you come on here complaining of what you can't do any longer while you are in your car driving to work, why don't you stop and think how the survivors who are paralysed on half of their body feel? They sure aren't driving to work, hell most of us find ourselves medically retired early.
I'm getting fed up with being one of the compassionate ones, the understanding ones. I'm standing up and saying hold on here, get a grip. Don't come looking for sympathy from me, save it for the outside world that can look at you with wide eyed wonder that you survived a stroke. If you need to dramatize the damn thing, tell the uneducated public how tough life is for you now. Tell how you just can't work a productive 40 hour week and still have energy left over to go out partying till dawn. Yup, I agree that is tough to live with. Come on, wake up and realize how many others have it worse then you. Find alittle room in your heart for some understanding for those that are worse then you. Life isn't as bad as you are making it, it could be worse.
Now before I get blasted I am making a point that the survivors who have been hit hard physically deserve some respect and recognition. And those hit milder need to get another side of the story to balence their perspective. We are all members of the same elite club, lets try to be fair here. I'm not judging, just pointing out that stop and think and count your blessings before you go on a massive pity party.
Pam
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