I believe that crying and feeling sorry for yourself is a way of thinking and in order to overcome that, one must change their thought process. Talk to yourself. Look at yourself when you're crying. Remind yourself, that this doesnt solve anything. Just like a child, we must learn that crying has its time but its not the answer for everything. When I feel sad, I try to change my focus, get up and do something. Tears are completely expected after a life change, and in many ways they are a healthy way of releasing emotions. It means we understand that things have changed. I was in a deep depression for about 18 months after my stroke. My final turning point, is when I came to accept that Happiness was something I had to create, it wasnt gonna come find me.
This is what worked for me. I also became a volunteer and now I speak out about stroke. This has also been a great way to turn something so devastating, into something worthwhile.