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I am so happy for you. I got the feeling while reading your blog of such peace with you. One good thing after another is happening for  you and falling into place.Good luck Oct.9th. I'll be keeping positive thoughts your way that day

Thanks Asha ♡

please give her my healing thoughts and blessings

hi Karen,

The reality of people trailing off after stroke is unfortunately a very common thing. We all have different views as to why, not wanting to get involved with helping, don't know what to do there could be so many reasons. As to your comment about the magic 3-6 month mark, there isn't a magic mark. Recovery takes time and sometime that can take can take months to years. Thing happen at a snails pace and becoming overly stressed about the 'what if's' only tend to make it feel like forever, What your family and friends suggest is just that.  They truly don't know and understand and all you have to do is politely say to them;' Thank you for suggesting that. I'll consider it' You're not rude and being un truthful. I would consider finding a local stroke group where you are as well as the great one we have here and talk to other caregivers and get new ideas for coping.

Sometimes the basic rule of thumb we've learned as survivors is that the first year is the hardest for survivors and caregivers. His brain went through a terrible ordeal. It needs time as well as get the swelling back to normal.

There are great caregivers here that can better fill you in for the operations of day to day and getting you started with filing for SSDI and Medicare.   

You aren't wrong in your feelings. Your human and you can't change what was. For his happiness, I'd consider talking to a therapist who knows and understands Stroke or TBI and can help him along with this new life.

Sending positive blessings to you . xxoo

What I do is after I go to the blog screen, I  click the view new content. If that is what you are doing then I will learn from you what works better

I completely agree with you. If someone is battling this for any period of time, there is no telling what goes through ones mind. Depression coupled with drug and/or alcohol is a  deadly combination. I don't want to and won't talk about what could have or shouldn't have taken place instead I want to share my frustration with the misdiagnosis of the invisible illness. So many people not only in show business but after combat or some other form of trauma, are just swept under the rug because they continue to have a upbeat life or make others laugh. I'm reminded of Pierrot ( the sad clown)  Trying to put on a funny face when inside he is sad.

I'm so happy you had a great time!!!!

I am so glad she is doing better. I'm sure its not the subject of the book you read but your voice that made Mama feel better. Keep up the great work!!

It's a good thing that you are jut releasing it. I'm so happy your attacks have gotten less xxooxx

Keep up the good work!!!! Ace!!!

I understand about calling friends and they're all at work. I am going to be solo here soon as well so try to find a groovy hobby. Get a little window box and start growing something. Start a blob for other single ladies out there. I can't go to clubs or bars ( noise and quit drinking) Would you get fish or something?

well it sounds like you are able to do more in the car so your brain isn't quite up to speed with the new fun things you can do. Even if it may not seem like a huge change of activity, it is to your brain. Give it time to adjust to your new perspective. Your brain and body know life in the wheelchair. Let it get used to life in a fancy chair

thank you Sue. I've been 'feeling' my teenager side living home. I have to remind myself i'm 40

I WANT PICTURES!!!!!

Mike,

I'm so sorry but the way you speak of your wife shows the love and compassion you both had for one another. You showed her the utmost love when you allowed her to make up her mind about wanting to do it her way. She has given you the most beautiful gift.. true love and happiness.

in healing thoughts,

Kelli

that's is a brilliant way to see things. Despite our downfalls in life, we are always teachers first. If we can't do things for our kids, the fact we can instill the basic fundamentals of 'being human' to our children is the best gift and job well done!!

I'm so happy you found us as well. Just so you know, just because therapy stops doesn't mean your recovery ends there. Everyday you will improve and you can use some of the tip you learned in therapy to do at home. Being a mother is therapy everyday =)

i love you guys

what has happened to you is very terrible kelli but I sense that you are moving on and can forgive him for what he is doing to you. and the realization that he himself probably doesn't feel that he has any choice.the idea of forgiveness I find in the actions of nelson mandella who realized that being angry at - not forgiving- his tormentors was bringing a burden to himself that would bring harm to himself.you are doing very well kelli!david

most definitely xxoo

well sometimes people grow in different ways. As Sandy said, I was blessed to have him in my life for those 5 years. I'm not bitter and neither is he. We're better friend now. I say that because after the stroke, I like I was trying to fill someone else's shoes. I felt as if I didn't really know him.. Now I can with a happy heart

I could be saddened .. I am but he was a great father, caregiver. I'm thankful to have had him after my stroke. This stroke wiped out a lot of my memories, I said to him I don't feel like I fit in. I was thrown into marriage and mother.. I felt like my children were my step children . But we are going to be there for each other. No hard feelings. Stroke changed me. As I said before, I was told I had an affair before my stroke.. the fact he stayed with my for 5 years after my stroke, I couldn't be more blessed.

yes I'm happy to have had him in my life when I needed it

I agree with Debbie

HAHAHA she was!!!

thanks ya'll ))