Donna,
I am in a different situation. As I think about what to say I have so many things on my mind. About 11 years ago, I left my husband and children due to emotional abuse. At the time, I could not afford to take care of my children, and even every else, I knew how much my now ex loved our children. At the time, I was working as an assistant manager of a fast food restaurant, at the same time, I was taking classes to get a associates degree. Now my kids are all grown up. They are 22 and 19. They are trying to understand what has happened to me with my stroke. Recently my family had a family reunion week that my children were able to go to. Because of my stroke and seizures that have also caused severe car sickness I was not able to go. I'm sure that my family just doesn't understand, even though a few months ago I was able to discuss a bit of what I have been going thru emotionally and I think my folks might understand a little more now. My mom is a retired RN and my dad is a retired Methodist pastor. Hang in there with your daughter. She needs you more now than ever even though she's not going to admit that to you right now.