Labor Day 2009 mom had a stroke and I made about 3 to 5 trips a week to the carehome about 15 miles away. My siblings went over maybe 6 times the whole time she was there. In October of 2010 we moved her from the carehome back to her home and my daughter, one other caregiver and myself have been providing her with 24/7 care since that time. I have been putting in 92 hours a week (40 at my day job) and then 62 with mom. I have a family that for the past 1 1/2 years have been doing everything without me, no vacations, no birthday celebrations, no dinners out with just my husband. The Doctor put a halt to the hours of care that I'm able to provide as my health has been suffering and I just can't work that many hours any longer.
So about two weeks ago I hired 3 other caregivers to help care for mom and she is not adjusting well. She won't eat and she's furious with me as her daughter for making these changes. My brother and sister have no opinion on this and that only makes it worse. She won't look at me, she won't kiss me goodnight......she just sit's and ignores me the whole time I'm there. I've tried to talk with her but she refuses to listen to the fact that my health is suffering. I have such strong feelings of guilt for not being there for her like I have been and I don't really know what to do other than pray that she gets over it soon as it's tearing me apart to have her mad at me. Please can anyone help?