My 2 cents :
- As a stroke survivor, my daughter moved in with her dad when she was 15, and even though I loved her very much, my stress level decreased significantly. Stress for anyone isn't good; stress for a stroke survivor could be lethal.
- Who is legally responsible for her?
- I think she most definitely needs stability; being moved around can't be good.
- Are you able to speak to her teachers, or guidance counselor? There must be child advocates who work for the state. Maybe there are some programs that she and your sister qualify for.
- Does she do anything artistic? Would she benefit from volunteering at an animal shelter? I bet she needs to feel worthwhile, and by doing something she enjoys, and keeping busy, maybe it can help.
Please remember that she'll most likely rebel regardless of what you do, and that once she's legally an adult, or maybe even before that - she'll be out on her own. Mike's staying put.
I wish for you guys the best,
Susan