Chris
I can speak on behalf of your husband as I too had a stroke and spent 6 weeks in the hospital and another 6 weeks in rehab, i'm that guy that could work non stop, could fix anything and did, wife did not work and life was for the most part great other than little things that pop up unexpectedly, I feel terrible, I think I let my family down, I cant work, have practicality zero stamina, i'm dizzy all the time.
I will tell you it does not make me feel like the man of the house, rather if make me feel like the one that caused it all and its tough living with that, one of my daughters understand but lives 550 miles away, I don't want her to worry about me she's got her own life, the other two are tired of hearing about how I don't feel good most of the time so I just hunker down and keep to myself.
As far as my wife she told me 4-5 weeks after getting out of rehab she wanted to leave and to be honest she has a new significant other in her life that happens to be her best friend another women, I can deal with most of it but the last part tears me apart and I just stay home most days.
Don't give up on him, I know its hard but without you and your smile he will be broken beyond repair unless you cant take it any more or he is violent,
Hang in there because you have something, your husband and we have lost our souls or what makes us who we were
Strokes are nasty and ruin lives, try to work thru it
Ed