Phyllis4732

A little to explain the EMT/Volunteer charges. I lived in an area where many years ago, if you were a resident and needed help, you got it free. I don't know what the case was if a non-resident had an accident and needed them. Then, it was decided to charge $50.00. Then the local politicians got into the act. They decided that since a person's insurance paid for ambulance that they could raise the fee way up. They never even thought about the people who didn't have insurance. After all, they were probably covered through some program which was for the employees and they were able to get it too.

As for the movie management - let's see if I can say this like a lady..... People like that need to learn a lesson. It is not right to wish anything on anyone, but as a believer I feel that eventually they do get theirs. Why can't people see how fortunate they are and act accordingly?

While no cancer is of course good, colon cancer if it hasn't yet spread, is a better place than most. They cut away the part of the intestine and all is gone. My grnadmother was elderly when she had it and she died in her 90's from a broken hip (probably pneumonia because she wasn't able to be active) but the cancer was no part of it.

Keep your positive thoughts. My prayers are with your Mom.

You wouldn't question New Age, would you?

Sure you're not that bad. You did shut off the stove, didn't you?

Marty, I'm very sorry you became a small part of the problem. You were just making a statement. Unfortunately, I made a suggestion I felt would be of help to many, instead the heavens opened up. I just didn't realize that a suggestion was not permitted out in the open but had to go through the board. I won't bother to try to make any more. Like you, I feel that this is an excellent site and I will enjoy reading the messages, BLOGS etc. now when I find time rather than spending as much time as I had been.

I hope to see some messages from you because I love your humor.

Phyllis

Butch, nothing like a day out, is there? So glad it went so well.

Vicki, don't feel badly. My cousin sold (for no reason other than she didn't like them) some needlepoint dining room chair covers her mother spent hours on. A few years later her daughter married and she loved things like that. Sometimes things that are passed on have no meaning to the people getting them and they basically toss them. Don't feel badly, you will feel more secure and the person buying them will appreciate them. Short story. We once bought a colander (used) at a farm vegetable stand. My Mom said oh, it could probably tell a lot of stories if it could talk. I would think of that each time I used it and I loved it. No, it wasn't stainless or perfect (had a small dent - wondered how it got there) My home etc. was sold by my family. Stuff was thrown out. It upsets me because it had been saved for years and I managed to live, and will now have to repurchase even simple things. My niece made the decicion on things--- Probably, because it was stainless and shiny, I won't find it in the things still packed until I move to my own place. And there was the glazed cracked china canister set which my Mom probably got when she married.I rembered it from when I was a child- gone.That's what younger generations think of things. Maybe to your daughter, or whoever, the setting wasn't right. Grandma will understand.

As for bills. Everyone is willing to take little for longer. When I had my fist stroke, I didn't haveany insurance and certainly not enough fpr even a small simple stroke. The hospital set an amount I could work with and I paid that amount every month until paid. Same with Dr.s. Just send a letter or call and see what ccan be worked out.

THIS IS HILAROUS! I LIKE READING THOSE IN THE PAPER BUT I READ THOSE FROM WOMEN AND LAUGH AT THE WAY THEY ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL AND THIN. I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE SITTING IN THE PUBLIC PLACE WHERE THEY MEET. I JUST BET............LIES!

UMMM, WONDER WHO THAT MAN IS???????????????????????????

You can tell me because I'm old enough to be his mother!

Marty, if you think the people at your 25th looked old, just wait until you see them + 25 more years.

Went to my 50th college reunion last year and at 50 years you are iniated into the Old Timers Society. The evening was lovely with a wonderful meal at a country club (all gratis) but I've

never seen so many decrepited people. Wheelchairs, walkers, canes and me you name it - even a seeing eye dog. Aging does not seem pretty but---of course that was them, not me. After all, we were the babies of the group

Phyllis

We have a large family dinner once a week and I would love to surprise everyone by bring her.

Butch never mind surprising the family. Think of how wonderful it would be for Lisa to be able to almost act normal and go to the family dinner.

I don't remember how long post stroke she is but I do know that before I could leave the rehab, there had to be a session with my c/g to practice getting in the car from the chair. It was 3 weeks for me - of course everyone is different. I'm sending energy your way for success in doing it.

Phyllis

Have the antidepressants always affected you this way? Maybe you're on the wrong one.

As for your Mom, she will be fine. You know, major surgery really takes a lot out of a person. It hasn't been that long and when she starts feeling better, is permitted "real" food - things like that - and gets out of the hospital, she will feel a lot better and so will you. You'll see.

[bVickie, I'm glad it went as well as it did; it could have been a lot worse. Now it's over and you can either go or not go the next time - that is if the Irishman and 1/2 Irishman will allow that.

Put the recipes on the message board so we all can at least drool, even if we don't make them.

Phyllis

Thanks, Vicki. I'm waiting for the "blow by blow". Just maybe, it wasn't so bad. or

Thanks people. I'm a city girl planning to move to a rural area - really rural. My neighbors will be wooded lots. I like the fact that I won't have humans on top of me, but I don't know about critters. They are cute to look at but "at a distence, please" No one mentioned snakes. Will have them too. Where did I ever get the idea to become a farm gal?

First of all Marty, Happy Birthday to your wife. Now for the idiots. Both of my strokes more or less were caused by insensitive neighbors and it involed trees. When I was a child, we used to have a tree that was between our home and a neighbors and it was left alone. They enjoyed the shade. When one neighbor moved, the next one also left the tree alone.also. I had neighbors though who would climb over their fence when I was away working and "trim" my tree and leave it for me to clean up. Yes, I offered at times but not as an ongoing ritual and after all you can't say they did it because you are not there to see it. The law was you could cut to the line (did't say about chopping up) not several feet away on the persons property.

Were you the one who was speaking of looking into the Villages? Met someone from there and heard all about it. Sounds cool. If not, come buy where my lot is- all acre+ property and you do what you want.......Oh, mine is on the quiet side of town. And trees--- that's all there are.

Love your idea for a farewelll gift, but think you can do better than that.

I thought I was the only one who avoided scales. I have put on about 20 lbs from the rehab weight. Better food at home? Going out more? Naw, I blame it on a medicine I was taking. The Dr. said no, it doesn't do that. I feel it slowed my metabolism and maybe did. I went off of it because it was affecting me in other ways and I've seemed to have lost weight. The only place where I can't avoid the scale though are the Dr.s offices. I say don't tell me; I'm closing my eyes.

Good luck Pam, That's wonderful.

it is a slap on the head to remind the survivor to never let your guard down.

Agree wholeheartedly, but do I remember that? NO! Just when I think I've got the "not to fall thing down" I forget and then the next day aches remind me for a little while.

Little Me, I wish you luck in finding the right place. Is your father eligible for further therapy? If so, check that out. See if there is a bulletin board with activities. Although your father may not be able to take part, it shows that they are concerned about the residents and they just don't let them all lay in bed with nothing to do. And smell the air. See if it smells of vanilla. Many years before I was in a nursing home, I visited someone at 2 different places. They either smelled of urine or vanilla to mask the smell. The one I was in after my acute rehab, was the best place. The therapy I had there for was excellent, they had acticities which I didn't have much time for and maybe should have taken a more active role in; I was able to eat my meals in the dining room and they often had people entertaining at lunch; they had their own governing board etc. And most important, I DIDN'T SMELL OF EITHER URINE OR VANILLA, which meant, they took care of that problem by cleaning up right away. These are the things to really look for. They are all going to tell you only good stuff.

Your Daddy sounds like a wonderful person and deserves the best. And you are a sweet daughter for taking the time to do this.

Perhaps you will understand something when you read this. Many years ago, before your were even a twinkle in your parents eyes and I was your age, there was a pretty popular singer. I reakly can't remember her name- Roberta Sherwood maybe- and she was an older woman who had grown sons- not young as you are. She used to sing, wearing a simple black dress and I believe she had a symbol that she would tap with a wire ? that drummers use. Her voice wasn't great, not even especially good, but she sang with a lot of feeling and expression. To bring this up to a few years ago. Ever hear of a man named Frank Sinatra? He wasn't great either but he had a bunch of girls in the audience who would swoon when he sang. Years later when he had matured, his reputation had grown to the point where when he sang New York, New York, everyone loved it. Who's to say that a singing career isn't in your future? It's simply getting a gimmick that will make people notice.

Go for it.

I'm a doggie mommy too. Taking my little one to the vet was always hard on me. He understood and often took her to the back. Maybe not nice of me but I didn't need to have another stroke there. Moved far away and my dog goes to a new vet- I miss the old one so, I went there for over 40 years- 2 generations. They are top notch too. In fact, I was supposed to go 2 days after my stroke. Left town the next day and was going to write a letter of explanation but never got to it. Oh, she's a 6-7 lb. chihuahua and 11 years old. That scares me. I'm not lucky age-wise.

Hope your "baby is ok and hope it's just allergies. I know abouth doggie asthma may work for you too. Just rub her chest or gently on the throat. Happens to short muzzle dogs a lot.

Phyllis