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Fred :

Happy Valentines day to you too. Its fortunate that we have found right love in our life who decided to stick by us in all our up & down journey of life. I already celebrated my valentine Day with hubby on my stroke anniversary date. & we both had great time together.

Asha

hey Kelli :

don't try to attach your happiness to your outside look  & material things, all those things don't matter unless you are going to earn your living by showing off your body in magazines & movies. I find weight  & outer look is such a superficial things  what really matters is how the person is in the inside. as long as you are healthy weight & not obese weight is the last thing in my mind. our happiness should be attached to other things which matter how good mom daughter or all roles we are playing in life. we in east believe god has made someone out there for every one. & you never know when & how u will meet the person. but eventually we all do & have to make best out of person we end up with. will pray for you.

Asha

Audra :

stroke affects whole family. It definitely put lot of stress on caregiver too, & it put every one out of their comfort zone. I feel we survivors atleast have it easy compared to our caregivers where suddenly they r burdened with so much more. Sometimes I m glad I am survivor & not a caregiver cause I don't think I could have been able to hold fort till he got his footing back. But I will tell you one thing which my hubby constantly told me keep head out of water for now when you feel like you are drowning in despair. tide will change. remember nothing lasts same forever good time or bad times nothing will last forever. Try to make your survivor as independent as possible more he can do things for himself easier it will be for you in long run. I am so grateful my hubby is patient man & I was impatient. so I could never wait till help arrives for me to do things for me. So naturally became more independent. Also give him house chores whatever he can do safely laundry bill payments cooking, cleaning. Anything he can do you should allow him to do.you both will benefit from it. his self confidence will improve & you will have breathing room for yourself to do other things around house.

Asha

Sue :

Enjoy your time with your friend. we will be still here when you return & update us all your doings with friend.

Asha

Audra :

welcome to best online stroke support group. Bruce is fortunate to have you by his side. with your support he will be thriving.  I stroked at age 34 which left me paralyzed on my left side,  & retired me from the job I loved. for me  I never knew so much of my self worth was attached to how much money I made prestroke. I felt hugely lost even when I was surrounded by great friends & family support. I found blogging & chatting with other survivors hugely therapeutic for my soul. & today after 12 years on this post stroke journey I find my stroke just as speed bump on our life's journey it allowed me to slow down so that I enjoy scenery  along the way. hope Bruce joins our chat & blog world. belated happy birthday

Asha (now 46 year old survivor)

Fred :

I have no interest in superbowl  but just for fun I will predict Bronocos since pigs on live with Kelli & Micheal show picked Bronoco as their winner. So thats my research & I m picking bronco too lol. oh no carolina just scored touch down so its 6 to 10 after 1st quarter

Asha

Pam :

reading your blogs makes me so happy for you. I am so glad you are content  & happy to be around other people. I also feel being organized makes life so much easier. I am work in progress in that department.

Asha

Julie :

Happy Anniversary to Larry. having understanding & loving caregiver makes huge difference in survivors life. I am so glad you are by Larry's side.  Sometimes it feels so scary to change the doctors who we feel like are god & has our best interest at heart.  will have to remember they are human & we have to do what is right for us.

Asha

Fred :

we both stroked around same time frame. I am also coming up on my 12th stroke anniversary. I thought suffering stroke at young age was injustice to me & our family. but thanks to amazing family & spouse it feels perfect timing by god lol. this life is earth school & our experiences & choices we make in life creates our destiny. Some choices are good some are bad but as long as we learn from those experience & grow no experience is wasted in life. maybe you had to go through difficult marriages to finally meet your soulmate & be great husband. celebrate every day.

Asha

Jay :

beautiful poem, sometimes I thank my stroke which changed course of my life for better. Met wonderful people otherwise I would have never met in million years.  My stroke made me believer in the line there are no accidents in life.  thanks for being here. your positive attitude & uplifting blogs I look forward to reading every day. It starts my day on positive note.

Asha

Lydia :

thank you so much for updating your blog. you are such a dynamic person doing so much after stroke, it just tires me out reading your blog, I m amazed you have  energy to babysit after full day of work. please update us after your doctor visit what is his opinion about your recent fatigue. oh & you have to update us more about your new love interest . I want details lol.

Asha

Jay :

Happy Anniversary. first year is the hardest of all physically & emotionally. But I know you will do better and better as years go on. Enjoy your up ride on life's ferris wheel. you are blessing to many. hope you are celebrating your stroke anniversary in style.

Asha

Scott :

I m glad atleast one doctor has courage to tell you the truth  instead of giving you false hope which makes you think oh I will be happy when my left hand start working, I think once you accept & start living life to your fullest. stroke just becomes speed bump in our life's journey. I know acceptance is most serene place in your life's journey.

Asha

Jay :

I am so happy for you. I think with positive attitude towards life everything is possible I am glad you both found your old activity & love for it together & adapt to make it new activity to do it together which you both enjoyed. I am sure this thing is going to make you guys even closer & your marriage stronger. Enjoy.

Asha

hey Kelli :

I was so upset reading your blog didn't know what to say but I agree with yvonne & pam both nailed it. I agree with both you need to step back from going to his place so often though in a way I think you are going there for your son & not him. but I agree time for you to move on. you are great person inside out & will find great guy.

Asha

hi sweetmom :

reading your blog reminded me of my initial similar struggle I hated what I became post stroke & I wasn't happy about that. I didn't ask for this new stupid stroke which brought all the changes I didn't volunteer for or asked for it. but once I accepted & making best lemonade possible for our life. It felt liked I kicked ass of stroke which interrupted my joyful  prestroke life. So  I am sure you wil different once you reach your acceptance stage & start enjoying your new normal

.Asha

I m so happy for u Pam I m glad things settled down for u in nursing home where u found great roommate room and nurses just enjoy your now without looking back things always works out in our favor when we stop resisting the flow and make best out of every given situation hope you will start joining us in our chat room regularly too

Asha

Hi donna

I am glad you started blog I found blogging hugely therapeutic for my soul reading writing everything helps I stroked at age 34 which retired me from the job I loved I was lost for few years trying to figure out who am I after my job loss it took a while but I found my new normal and happy place after stroke. I found blogging and chatting with other survivors very therapeutic. Hope to see you around often

Asha

Pam :

I am so glad you are enjoying your good times right now. It is so hard to believe that bad times will ever end when we are in midst of it. update us as soon as you get procedure on your leg done.

Asha

Sue :

I can so understand your blog. Change is big thing, change put us out of our comfort zone & that's why we hesitate making any drastic changes in our life. But have faith in god's bigger plan for you, he wants you to be happy So just plan a vacation go on escorted tour with friend or daughter you never know who will you end up meeting. I know for me whenever there was change in life I was resisting it recently our upcoming move, but when we go with flow without resistance best thing comes out of our drastic change in our life. you can look back in your own life & you will witness the pattern. I know that's what happened in my life, my stroke is big testament in my life that change can be good. I am  proud of the person I have become post stroke in spiritually

Asha

Heather :

I am impressed you got such a great therapy team mine just discharged me & then don't want to help in any way. So I guess that helped me work on my new post stroke life ^work on my acceptance & inner self.

Asha

Jay :

it happens. I think get small pocketbook calender I know that has made me so organized  & now I can't live without it. I got my poketbook calender my email  calender & home  calender lol I know I have gone overboard with this organization business. It strange now hubby who is accountant asks me about our home  things. I needed those when trying to manage our son's activities.

Asha

hey Jet :

thanks for coming here & updating us back, I m so happy for you. you are living testament there is life after stroke & it is not good or bad just little different but still great.

Asha

Bill :

comgratulations thanks for letting us know & share the joy post pictures of your fiance 

Asha

Jay :

you are such a great guy & I bet blessings to many.

Asha