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Robyn: I don't know how to sugarcoat my message, but I know you are very smart woman who wishes good for her children, Right now you have to be very strong for your children, for Sam, if I think from his prospective of world as 4 year old , there are so many things are going upside down for him, you have to make sure you are emotionally there for him, to make world better place for him, and not dwell in uncertainity and about love and stuff. things change, you still have full life with or without Jane. so take care of kids first Asha

Tina: Wish Mike Happy Birthday from me, you guys will have great party together. I know I fret over throwing party too, but important thing is gettng together and enjoying each other's company, and when you are enjoying food becomes least important, so you will do just fine. I agree with Robyn, anniversaries specially stroke anniversary are both joyous and sad occurance, though it makes you realise how far you had come. Asha

cindy: That's awesome, you both be so proud, I know I would. congratulation, sseems like his cofidence is returning Asha

Sue: I m sorry you are having such a bad day today, I can't even say I understand frrustration of caregiver, since as a survivor I m at such abetter place than Ray, though I will tell you one thing, stop worrying about what others will say, do what is right for you and Ray. there is saying in Indian cultures that dogs will bark no matter what, you can't live your life based on how others feel and say, My dad died after 9 years f diagnosed with alzeimer, and last 3-4 years were horrible for mom, he had incontinence problem for urine and stool both. It was nightmare for mom, she was doing all that by herself, no help whatsoever, only she would get bunch of relatives telling her to take dad to this doctor or that doctor, she had absolutely gone mad, so one more time do what you needs to do, if you need break you need it, doesn't your kids help in caring, maybe you can ask for share caring with them, or bunch of those friends who calls you angel to help you out Asha

hey sherri: I m so happy for you, regaining that confidence back is best thing as far as I could tell, you don't feel "poor thing" anymore. Now that my confidence is back I fight more with hubby:) Asha

Diane: so happy for you, great anniversary present, I had the feeling that you will do great with attitude of yours, you will go places, I m 2 one handed right now, but that does not stop me for doing things I love to do or like to do love Asha

Tina: you are lucky to have great family and friends Asha

hey Robyn: your mom is pretty wise, one more thing since I m Hindu and believe in all destiny and all other nine yards, maybe in a time you will learn that Jane's stroke was turning point in your life which made you rely on yourself, you got those inner strengths, in time you will b that great strength of pillar Jane would love to come back to and leanto, so nothing happens without reason, and there is always good reaspon behind it, if we learn from our adversity life is not bad at all Asha

Bill: I m glad your house got sold to your liking, its not those 4 walls that makes it a house its people in it who makes it a home, Man I m impressed with your ability to finish basement and gardening & stuff, wow if you can do tht with 1 hand, then I can just visualize what you can do with 2 hands. I m sure lot of new doors will open up for you and bud. Asha

Rich: I m so happy that movement in your arm, and wrist are firing that's wonderful, could you also let us know when that piece is going to air on ABC Asha

hi Chris: I valued that small thing I love you more when I was lying in hospital helpless and disable, I truely realised that I have married Gem, and he loves me unconditionally, I bet Trev must be thanking his stars to marry you Asha

Tina: learning from your blogs, I can onestly say feels like Mike has come so far, it will be funny to hear about his funny outbursts, as Jean says if you can laugh about these thing life becomes much more easier, and sooner he will get rid of his chair, life will be breeze, I too stroked at 34, and was very adamant of not using wheelchair, so luckily never used one outside hospital and rehab you both are very lucky to have each other. Asha

Tina: welcome to our blog world, I m so excited to hear more from you about Mike and yours journey together, it will be fun to get to know you through your blogs, little snippets of your life Asha

Veggie: your son sounds like smarty pant just like mine Asha

Amy: hopefully you are feeling better in your neck.I think fall is my favorite season now Asha

Kristen: I don't have aphasic husband, but I go through same fights all the time, we can't seem to agree on any furniture, so result is our half of house is empty and we live on very essential furniture. but still we both love our house without sofa in it in our formal living room Asha

hi ken: good to hear from you, I like your spirit about going to BBQ, it does not matter that you can't help the way you used to do, but you are going out and about rather sulking at home. have great week Asha

Robyn: oops I m sorry, I wrote comment after reading just 1 paragraph,actually you are doing all what I thought you should be doing rather than me hurting feeling:) so sorry, hopefully you forgive me Asha

Robyn: If I offend you in my comment or anything, than I m sorry, but I have to say this, I know its your blog, so you can write ur thoughts, but also think about Jane also, right now she is going thru horrific time of her life, what she needs from you is lot of understanding, love and support, this whole ordeal is not about you, how you feel and all that, it is what she is feeling and what she is going through if I m out of the bound in my comment than I m sorry Asha

Rich: congratulations on your positive results from stemcell treatment, so happy for you, keep them coming, I love your blog, keeps my hopes alive good luck in everything Asha

June: Jean answered what I was going to say, but since I m blog moderator and before this escalate into hurt feelings, just wanted to point out that Robyn is just writing down her feelings to sort out her struggle, without violating any rules by her partner. I hope we all are respectful to every indivisual's blog, and I know Juneyou did not mean it that way, so lets just kiss & hug, and stop right here Cheers, Asha Blog Moderator

Linda: Happy Stroke anniversary, I m happy for you that you are doing great in your life and don't need crutches of strokenetwork anymore. Asha

Bill: maybe because I don't have deficits you do, so I think if its math& that kind of stuff then you can defintely relearn, since we did learn when we were young.At 36 you still have whole life ahead of you. Asha

Cindy: I m happy your daugter is with you now, I think all parents are sucker for their kids, I know mine knows how to push my buttons to get things his way Asha

Sue: I agree with you about people in 3rd world country won't last longer after their stroke, I m planning to make living will that I don't want to be on any artifacial support if I get another stroke(I hope not), I want my family to remember me without me being burden on them. when my dad had alzeimers, I had wished many times that he should just die. since it was increasing difficult for mom to handle incontinence & carrying dead weight around, but sometime we all ares helpless we don't have any control over our entry&exit from this world, and all around us has to suffer with us Asha