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Amy: don't blame on your stroke, we as a whole family lost sight of our car in a mall one time and had to call security and my brother to help us find our car. I m so glad you are able to carry ur daughter, I used to do till I stroked and now kido is more afraid of falling then me. you have great attitude towards your recovery, I need to learn things from you. Asha

Amy: janice is right, fiine they could not read number but they could have called directory assistance to get number from, so don't feel bad, you are paying customer, they did not do their job right, so don't apologize for anything. I will credit you that you remembere to call photographer to get pictures, that shows real great mom, I would have forgotton that completely, I know not a great mom, but I m always work in progress I like your idea of having fun, Gabe is 1 lucky guy Asha

hey Butch: that's great thing she is going out with girls on her own, that will allow both of you to get confidence back that yes she can handle herself alone and that will help her also getting her confidence back. I have to tell you my story my hubby was getting too protective of me so when we decided to send me to India for alternative treatment, he was not sure how will I be able to handle alone, but I told him I can speak so I can always ask for help if I need one, that trip was real confidence builder for both of us, after that we also took packaged tour to europe and had lot of fun everywhere. life does goes on after stroke, now again v r planning to take india trip in july. Asha

hi vanilamoon: I am afraid to say this cause lot of people don't believe in God, but have you considered maybe higher power wants you to be in new loving relationship where love is reciprocated. don't dwell on past embrace future theremust be something more exciting waiting for you to happen. For me to fight my depression is believing in hgher intelligence and I know he has good plan for me. things have to turn around for everyone, there can't be just low tide all the time, or low rollarcoaster ride, things has to change, just trust in God Asha

Sandy: you are right you haven't said, I presumed it based on my own little knoweledge of projects in NYC, the thing protraied in TV, and movies, yes I should not make any judgement call on anybody. I m sorry, please forgive me. Asha( the person who first thought whole america is like jerry springer type, after staying and working in professional field realised that's not the case) once again sorry u big sister Sandy.

Jean: I don't know about sandy but I agree with what you said completely, what's the point in dwelling over past, my hubby says forgiveness is key to happiness, and I believe whole heartedly, as I think everyone has different outlook on life, for example sandy thinks growing up in projects is some sort of downgrade thing versus I grew up similar kind of apartment buildings in India think as luxury thing compared to so many people living in slums, or guttor pipes. I guess every incident in our life has 2 sides to it, which side you want to look depends on your personality. I really like to remember my past with fondness since there was nothing horrible happened except money problems in my childhood Asha

hi all: I am not going to wear any hat here and think you were refering to me, if you were then I m sorry I agree with bonnie everybody is different and have different out look on life, but I too glad that you all are in my life, I like to see rebellian out look though I can't follow but I do admire gutsy people who follow that Asha

Amy: I love this exercise, so many new things come out when we strt writing about our family. I m also family of 6, 3 sisters and 1 brother, and I m the youngest. my mom used to tease me all the time that I was an accident, but my dad loved me fiercely. Asha

hey Butch: because of my son I have watched all star war movies and I like them. Darthvedar wasn't bad person, he ws very good from heart, but made bad choice to join dark side, we all flip sometime no big deal and getting out of bed was initially difficult for me 2, now we all 3 sleep on floor, now sleeping on bed or floor both have become quite easy for me, though I prefer sleeping on affected side such that I can hug my hubby with right hand Asha

Sue: Thank for sharing your story, that will make me behave with my mom Asha

Sandy: I like your blogs, but you are too far intellectual in your choice of words for my little nonenglish brain, but I loved your last line of poop happens Asha

Amy: our son for longest stayed on small bike where he did not even need training wheels, he can just put his foot down, my hubby was thinking himself as failure as father, so still riding small bike finally when he showed his dad riding big bike, hubby felt better we got him bigger bike and he loves to bike in summer in culdesac while I watch them play outside in summer Asha

Pam: you inspired me to try without brace too, and guess what I m able to walkwithout brace, I think for few months I will walk with shoes but no brace, and then try wearing wering normal shoes( with little heel) congrats on your gains. Asha

Btch: as a young survivor I have been there, nothing interested me to fill up my time except surfing web and troubling my collegues on IM, finally I started coming to work part time 2 days a week luckily got a ride to work, and nobody is paying me but that's fine by me, I m learning our new project haven't contributed a cent in it, but feeling good about myself. If pay or money defines how succesful I was, then I was very successful, I was team lead in my project and now I m starting bottom up, but oh well being in my field gives me lot of my self esteem, I try to do all our housework. It is big adjustment going back to work again and starting from scratch bottom but hey its worth the self esteem. you should encourage lisa to start going to work part time no pay start smalland then build up, just my suggestion Asha(36 year old survivor)

Vicki: things will be defintely better in 2006, u were in so much dump in 2005, that there is no way but going up this year. wishing you happy and healthy new year 2006 Asha ( for who 2004 was worst, but things r turning around)

Pam: wepay our bills electonically for few years now, and there has never been any problem, they take out money from our checking acct at certain day send us statement, it has been working out great. after my stroke Ihave taken responsibilty of mails, but there is not much to do except filing, which with my 1 hand and great system set up by hubby I m able to do. having productive days does feel great though Asha

hey Gary: welcome home, we missed you at strokenet, hope your plants and cat r stil alive, I m sure I would have killed your plants. belated Merry Christmas and timely new year to you Asha

hey Pam: I don't think u r forgotton by your kids, who cares if sumbhead moved on, but ur kids do need you and still loves you. kids r most wonderful people in whole wide world, with so much short term memory problem and forgive us so easily, don't judge us parents they just love them no matter what, and I bet today is better day for u, I know for sure u r quite strong personality to overcome small pity parties, So many things I still need to learn get up and fight buddy life still goes on.if chocolate works for u then eat those. lots of love Asha

hey Butch: when I just got admitted in rehab still needed wheelchair to go anywhere, I was arguing with doctor to release me such that I can go back to my work, he was shocked he was like do you even realise what that means, do u think you can still do the work, and I gladly told him in programming if you know 3 simple rules you should be ok, and it took me year to come back to work part time, and I m still not there yet, lot of things have changed at work, so have to relearn everything,and I realise now that I m getting that satisfaction at cost of leaving my child alone, and I started to question is it worth it. but having goal of going back to work is good goal nonethless Asha

hey Sue: I don't have anything to add to it except the fact that I sympathize with your frustration, my dad suffered from alzeimer at age 44, it was great impact on whole family, he died at age 55, I was only around with my mom, who took care of him all the time, all other siblings had flown from nest, It was not easy on my mom at all, and you have to relise this is in India where no onehad heard of alzeimer, initially we thought he had just gone plain mad, it used to frurstrste my mom whole lot, and I was teenager at that time, so I was no help to mom in anyways, I guess I was youngest of 4 so maybe suffered from young child syndrome, but please take care of urself, at one point I prayed my dad to pass to God. take as much help you can get in taking care of Ray, I don't think nursing home is bad idea either, This remind me I better make living will of me. lots of hugs Asha

Alana: welcome to our blog stroke community, every story is different just like every stroke, but I think we all get enough courage to get through our share of problems in life. having positive attitude and sense of humor is one of the required criteria in stroke recovery. hope to meet you someday in chatroom, cheers, Asha

hey Janice : wonderful news for both of you, don't worry about joe loosing weight, he will gain back in no time. what a wonderful xmas gift you got. have happy and healthy xmas and new year Asha

hey Sandy: your blog is always very funny, I thought only I wanted money, but u beat me, loved all your answers. Asha

hey M&M: Merry XMas to you and your family, I know it will be wonderful xmas for you all Asha

hey Amy: for longest time I cried and blamed everyone including God, since in hospital they wouldn't give me TPA saying I will bleed to death since I had just delivered baby day ago, and everybody around me made TPA as a wonder drug (clot buster drug), which could have saved my neurons, you know what with ur blog, I m making peace with myself, that this was my destiny, and nothing would have helped it, so I march in my life with what I got. hey I will miss you at party, so in case I don't see you, wish you merry Chirstmas and happy holidays Asha