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hey kristen: glad you had fun in your cousins wedding party, I guessed you would and patrick would enjoy meeting more people, after my stroke and I m also 35, I love going to party and joining dance and whole nine yards, I always loved dancing before and I know people also get highly encouraged by seeing someone so less fortunate still having so much fun, so overall its great booster for me and others Asha

hey slowe: jean is right, it takes time to get adjusted to each others patterns, sometime people take out their anger on minor stuff, my mom live with my brother and family, I used to think for longest time my sister-in-law is not adjusting she is mean and so forth, after my stroke realised she was also very good human being, but just with her point of views, and my mom has her own flaws, it is nothing to do with you being burden or anything, everybody needs to adjust with new situation so just hang in there for urself and ur hubby Asha

hey Pam: It is sad that after going through stroke you still haven't learnt patience what I truly believe that any adversity hit in my life is opportunity given us to grow spiritually and rectify our flaws, atleast you are feeling remorse for it, you recognised your mistake so next time you will be more tolerant, nothing in life is waste if we learn from it Asha

Pam: are you sure he (Daniel) was not associated with Amway, I have burned by these Amway agents more than few times that now if anybody tries to be too friendly I get suscipicious of their ulteriro motives Amway is pyramid chain kind of business which I don't want to get involve in Asha

hey bonnie: that's very good that everything is normal, and don't worry about another stroke, we can not change our destiny so why worry Asha

hey Pam: it was llong 2 weeks for me, missed you dearly, I love your arrogance one would think after stroke it will die down, but yours is bouncing with full force, Idon't know whether its good or bad, let's just say Im very different than you, but like your attitude. I hope apart from fighting you and peter also had good time together, did he like woodstock love Asha

hey Amy: you are so lucky to be blessed with girl, where you can dress her up like doll, who needs real doll then, I bet pictures will come out really great love Asha

Janice: I am so sorry to hear your husband's news, I will pray for you and Joe, and you are right God is in control of things, he will take care of you both Asha

hey Ruthie: It helps to have wonderful supporting family, what does doctors know power of human strength and love Asha

hey Butch: that's wonderful, within few weeks Lisa will be home and u might find out that she might come home without wheelchair, make rehab work on her climbing stairs also such that yo might not need to put liftchair on stairs. good luck to you both Asha

hey Amy: its so wonderful that you are volunteering in school system, I want to do it too, but right now I will have to be content with volunteeringin his school activity, as soon as my driving comes I will get my degree evaluated and maybe become substustute teacher or something, but I m very happy for you, you are best mom keeping tab on activity in school, I am trying to become good mom, I think amy even though you would like to think otherwise once a teacher is always a teacher, and don't read those eval reports, its all past you are way ahead in a game now, y worry about past, u have proved them all wrong anyways. I started volunteering in Ashay's sunday school kind of classes where they do arts and crafts prayers and stuff. I thought of telling stories but I sucked big time last sunday, I need to do better job in it, my reply is also jumping all over the place cheers Asha

Marty: you crack me up, I guess its problem with men they never learn, decorating house is woman's job, and men should stay out of it. Asha

hey Ruthie : that's wonderful, you are lucky and blessed to have wonderful family by your side, I m too fortunate to have wonderful hubby and family by my side. lots of love Asha

hey Stan: I agree with wise comments of bonnie, friends do come and go but remeber fun times they brought with them you still have ton ofjriends here bud Asha

hey Amy: you described so well I could imagine ur nephew doing tantrums in my kitchen floor. some fiesty little one you got, which makes our kids look angels Asha

hey Ruthie: its ok to have pity party once a while, but don't make too many, you are mom, wife too many responsibility on your shoulder, you and ur hubby are both wheels of your life wagon, so be strong, and enjoy every moment with your family, if your hubby comes home early, you will get chance to cuddle with him. come and say hello in chat room sometime. lots of love Asha (mom,wife , 35 yr old stroke survivir)

hey Amy: your trip sound so perfect, I m J, I think I will try it with my hubby, but I never had chance to do any couple things before or after our kido Asha

hey devoted daughter: I agree with lighthouse, family member has to be advocate of patient, when patient is not able to do it. luckily I did not have speech problem and I was just 34 so doctors and nurses were kind to me, but my hubby, sister they all took very active part in my treatment. when I was still in ICU drs were nuisances, they would come and tell me things will get better once you r in therapy but u can't go in therapy cause we have to adjust ur INR level for coumadin, once Ipush one doctor too hard in prescribing me coumadin, he bluntly told me if we don't get ur INR level theraupetic, you could bleed to death and stuff like that, and making me more depressed, finally my family blasted that dr, and told him not to visit me anymore if there is no uplifting things he can say. anyway point I m trying to make is family member has to be active in their loved one's care, I know you are very busy with your kids, then maybe get somebody else involved. I wish I was closer to help out. Asha

hey Janice : next time try harder, there has to be 10 things you still like about ourself, though its hard, Asha

Mary: I also have sometime those days, where getting out of the bed is chore, there is nothing to look forward, for me to get out of that mode, I read spiritual books or novels, we need something to look forward to in life, just expect something wonderful is going to happen today or start planning vacation, sorry for rambling on, if you find pill to get charged up, pass it to me also or come online to chat lots of hugs Asha

kristen: I know how you must be feeling, I was hugely depressed while going for therapy, and I knew when my therapy was coming to end, drs and therapisr were very nice where I went, they were all saying since ur insurance is ending for this year therapy has to stop for this year, its nothing to do with reaching platateu, by reducing hours they r trying to maybe wean off therapy though I know speech therapy continues on for long time just take it in positive side, that they think he can now survive on its own Asha

hey Pam: have lot of fun on ur romantic vacation. take him to niagara falls you both will love it there, its such a honeymoon place. Now I know your reason for being so happy Asha

Amy: have fun with ur DD in fair parade, at our house I like to do stuff like that, and hubby cribbs about parking and everything else with it. have fun, and post some pics of it love asha

hey stan: I m jealous, y don't u book 2 cabins, I think our family will join 2, have a wonderful time with ur family, and u still look dashing so don't even think about past and now, in god's realm all ages are looks r wonderful have fun Asha

hey Amy: this is general suggestion don't make outsider judge you or decide what you will be pre or post stroke, I m reading right now your best life right now by joel (something), it says and I agree with it, God has sent to earth to enjoylife in complete abudence, and those drs are no God anyway, keep faith in you and God within you, nobody can make us feel inferior, we are capable human beings and for God nothing is impossible, so what they were testing you on silly stuff, think of them trying to do their job, but u know urself, and whatever part I have known, you are very caring, compassionate young lady, who is making sure her household is managed nicely with whatever limitation she got, so just ignore those drs who think something else, they are not even worth thinking about, do u think they go home and think about their patients, just ignore them, we all do comparisons in our recovery, but we all got damaged in some part of the brain, where dr thinks those functions exist, but brain is wonderful thing, mine is same as urs right part CVA and initially they thought I wouldn't be able to swallow or do accounting at home, but what do those drs know, just keep ur chin up, have faith in GOD Asha