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Lydia: welcome to wonderful world of blogging. Lydia As I had told you earlier I struggled with same question for long time, but have realized over the time, I am playing all those roles & that does not define me as a person. As I told you before please read new earth book by eckhart tolle it will give you lot of comfort. I just now believe I survived my stroke for a reason and at this time it is to be wife & mother. I have to do my duties as mother & wife as best I can do & I am sure God will take care of results. yes I worry what will happen when & if they both won't need me, but I believe I have to do my duties, my karma & God will take care of rest. just flow with life & do your best & don't worry about results.Lydia as a humanbeing we all wear lot of titles in our lifetime, but that's not who we are, our ego likes to attach ourselves to all this titles. you are lot more than wife, mother,or administrator. you are friend to many & loved by many even when those rolesgoes from hands on to hands off role. As a parent we all have done our job well, if our children are all able to fly on their own Asha

Karen: you & Bill are in my prayers. All we have is hope & our present. Make every day special. hugs, Asha

Jeannie: wow that's amazing. I get so frustrated with computers, I am amazed you persisted & finished the job good for you, now you can print from your laptop from anywhere amazing. Asha

Moses: welcome to wonderful world of blogging. I am glad you are able to go back to your job as an annoucer at swim meet. I am sure it has to be challeging to attempt after stroke. I am glad you tried & succeeded. I know this more you do it, easier t wil become as time goes on. Asha

hi Justice: welcome back to our wonderful world of blogging, keep on blogging & you will enjoy your stay here & it will help you deal with adjusting to new you. For me I m still same Asha who has use of only her one hand, but I am still same old me except now I am medically retired stay at home mom & wife. Asha

kelly: your story & strength encouraged & moved her to see how strong you are even with such a great misfortune striked you, & you are still staying so strong. For me first 2 years were the hardest then I realized so many positives still left in my life & for that I am forever greatful. I feel life is still great post stroke just little different. Asha

hey MC: thanks for updating us with all the juicy details of your birthday bash. though now I wish how i would have love to be fly on te wall to see Dan's new girlfriend. next time take pictures & update for your noisy friends lol. It's nice to see you are loved by so many people. you have amazingly thoughful son, next time give him hug from all of us. Asha

Jeannie: I have done the same thing few times before now I double check everything before leaving. thank god nothing bad happened lesson learnt, double check every thing next time. Asha

Sue: welcome back home, we missed you around here, I am sure ray will be delighted to have you back in few days. Enjoy the peace & quiet till then. Asha

mc: belated happy Birthday, hope you have great time on your birthday with your son & his girlfriend. you have great caring son. have lot of fun with love of your life on saturday. Asha

Karen: I am gld that Bill is tolerating chemo well. celebrate each day with each other be it going in car to grocery store or lake. enjoy every minute t fullest, none of us know exact expiration date stamped on our feet.So we have to make best out of every day given to us as present by God. Asha

Lenny: have a great fun party with your friends on valentine's day. Asha

Fred: thanks for reminding us of proud black history. I feel the same way about my culture & country. For me all religions are there to comfort me in my hour of need, I believe in all God & believe people call it different names

hey Pat: welcome to wonderful world of blogging. I use to call it my blogworld, but blogdom sounds better. loved all your pet pictures, I know there r lot of pet lovers in our blogdom so wil get lot of response on your amazing photography & great models. Personally for me bloging on this site has proved very therupetic for my soul. Asha

hi Julie: :congrats: on your first year anniversary. First year is the tougest of all, life changes in an instant, and so many changes to deal with. but let me assure you as time will go on, you will see things getting more normal, and you both will find happiness & contentment in your new normal. that's the best place to be in. I will be celebrating my 7th stroke anniversary in couple of days. I remember back in hospital I never thought I would find happiness again. but I did. so I now feel post stroke life is still good just little different. Asha

Jeannie: It was fun to read your childhood memories. I love the innocence of childhood when you are not worried about anything just enjoying the present moment with what it offered be it snow or sun. I think it's good idea to write in MS word & then copy & paste if you are not planning to finish in one sitting. Asha

hey Heather: that's loaded question, and only you can decide how you feel about it. For me I am happily married, & I would not tolerate or allow "platonic" friendship where he spends time with other woman. though I am not financially dependent on him, though emotionally I am dependent on him to raise our only child who is just 13 & still dependent on both of us to do our job in raising him well. so decision I will make in our relationship will be different than what you will decide for your relationship. Asha

Kelly: I feel the same way about strokenet and friends I made over the years. this winter I have not gone out to walk due to my fracture & now I am waiting for spring so that I will start going out again. I am glad you are blessed with understanding husband who realizes you need rest.: Asha

Heather: I will be honest here, I never had that philosophy from the begining. what I had was faith in God and my family members to help me get out of this forest fire. after going through severe depression for first 2 years and affecting life of people my hubby & my son who chose to stay by me & go through this life's journey. I made a choice to be best I could be & enjoy this post stroke life since all I have now is my new post stroke life. so I will trust on God that he will make sure which trees need to be reborn in my life. hope you get my point. its convoluted but worked for me. Asha

heather: I feel my stroke as fire in forest which is sometimes essential in life too to burn what is dead & give room to new things to grow. that's how I view my stroke as forest fire. as long as we are trying allow new trees to grow nothing is gone to waste. Asha

hey Heather: welcome back, I did not even recognize you. I am glad you are doing well & getting busy with life. After stroke life changes in an instant. It takes time to rebuild again after fire which burned our old life. I have realized after reading all blogs and living my own life there is still life post stroke just little different, but it's still good in its own way. Asha

Kelly: I have combined my anniversary as my valentines day, who says valentine' day has to be on feb 14 & not feb 8. I have felt so much love of my hubby for me on my stroke date. so at our household, valentine day comes early, and now I look forward to it.It's great that you don't have obvious stroke deficits. so you better celebrate your anniversary. It could have been worst, you were lucky. I wish you happy anniversary. Asha

MaryJo: I was so glad to read your feelings. I feel sometimes caregiver don't voice their feelings and might feel trapped in the situation. It's good to have that metime every day in the morning. I want to tell you as time will go on & Dan will be able to do more for himself, things will change. nothing stays same forever. you will be able to do all those cherished things you loved once before. I know this because we have been in this post stroke game for past 7 years. I feel life is good once again, just little different on how I achieve my wants & needs. Asha

Fred: this are hilarious, I am going to send it to my family. Asha

kelly: hopefully brace will help. life goes on with its ups & downs though glad you have your loved ones near to share with. Asha