swilkinson

There are friends that  can turn into enemies, I have had a similar experience, but yours is most difficult being your room mate. Just go on as best you can. Love the blind man as a friend, a fellow sufferer and someone who loves you. Love is important in our lives whoever and wherever we are.

So sorry Pam, all of this would not happen in a perfect world. (((hugs)))

I have been blogging for a long time. I did it initially for a way to expressing the feelings I felt bottled up inside me. I continued after Ray died as I wanted to be a support to others. I have a blog on a widows site too. I never wanted to make money out of it, just to help others really. I hope you find a friend to help you set up a website. Good luck with it.

Oh Pam, this is just not good enough and certainly not right, there is no justification for leaving you I pain. It is part of duty of care, a legal requirement,  that they give you pain medication as you need it. Policy be damned. 

Happy Birthday ASHA, enjoy the parties and the fun. You survived for many reasons, one of which is to be our inspiration herein the Blog Community.

Well done Kelli, you responded to the emergency, without thinking you did what you had to do. It was a test and you passed it with flying colours.

I am glad you are having peaceful nights. Be sure to go slowly with packing etc you still need to keep the pace slow, to get adequate rest and eat well. Be blessed and happy Ruth.

Tracy, I wish I was a fairy godmother I would send you some of what I have. Just sit tight and see what happens, there may be people who will help you out with furniture when the time comes. You are a good person, helping out your family even though you have so many difficulties yourself. Just do whatever you need to do and the future will take care of itself. (((Hugs)))

How sad, to lose a parent so young. Deigh we all want good things to happen to our kids and grandkids. A sudden death is so traumatic for those left behind.

Enjoy it while it lasts Pam. It is a gift. Let her enjoy your company, you are good for her too.

I am so glad you are in with someone who is compatible, it should make your life much easier and much more enjoyable. (((hugs)))

I have also had the same misunderstanding with my older son, over his leaving his wife and children in the lurch. I do stand by what I said but it was the wrong time and place. Sometimes my timing is way off. It has taken years to get back to a normal mother/son relationship. I hope you can remedy the situation easier than I did. Mostly it just blows over. Keep on doing what you do is all I can advise.

Same thought here - it is what it is. T 'is true events are just events, blame  neutral, so I just need to get on with it. Oh how I wish I could think that way when the going gets tough instead of giving in to self pity as I sometimes do.

I agree, he needs to resolve his own issues. You are his mother who gave up a lot for him, now it is time for him to act the adult and see you as the one who needs the nurturing. Oh my dear,  if only....

That was a scary experience Kelli, you did well to get through it. Glad you are registered as a handicap driver so they could just issue a warning. Hope this doesn't happen again.

I have not experienced what you are going through. I have only (((hugs))) to give you.

That is a beautiful story ASHA, your husband truly is your guardian angel.

Pam you are a true friend, the kindly friend I would like to know in that situation. It is so hard to work out why someone would steal from a 96 year old veteran but it seems it is happening over and over. Your son is a saint, you are right, and learned it from his mother. I am amazed by the way you bring happiness to others under such difficult circumstances. 

I am sorry the nurses look at you but do not "see" you. That is very frustrating for you. You deserve better treatment. The pain dominates your life which is understandable, but I hope there is more to your life than that. 

I agree, the therapists only do what they know how to do, they can't mend broken people. I used to get so frustrated that Ray's therapy didn't "cure" him. But the strokes changed me as well into what I am today and that was a good thing. Tracy you are the educator in this. Gently but persistently please tell them all you know about the road to recovery and encourage them in every way you can. Patience and persistence are key words in every recovery.

It is always good to be grateful for what you have and learn to love life just as it is. It's taken me 70 years but I am finally getting there. Good for you ASHA.

Yes, sometimes I run out of empathy. More so when I was a full time caregiver. I think for me it was about me being too tired to care about anything that was not connected to being a caregiver. Now it is about people complaining about husbands when I wish I still had mine. 

Dear, dear Ruth, so sad that William passed away but so glad you survived the experience of being a great caregiver. Thank you for being part of the Blog Community and by doing so adding to the lives of other members. Thank you for being my friend also, it has been a great privilege. I hope the days ahead are full of happy memories rather than sad.  Big (((hugs))).

Ruth, my heart goes out to you. It will be six years since Ray died next Wednesday and there is still a longing for him in my heart. You have been such a faithful caregiver and now are seeing your beloved William till the end of his rich life. God bless you both.

Oh Pam, so sorry you are in so much pain. To stay strong as you do is such an inspiration to me. I have a few niggly electrical feelings and mild cramps in my left thigh but nothing I need pain medication for. Wishing you peaceful days and good sleep filled nights. (((hugs))).