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Lack of vitamin D can also add to depression so time in the sun or use a supplement, vitamin D plus magnesium is a good combination. I believe in routine too. I live on my own as I am a widow so some mornings am tempted to stay in bed as it is winter here but the routine doesn't provide for that and so up I get and go on with the day. Is there anyone who could come and visit and maybe take you out for a few hours for a change of scenery?

Pam there are all kinds of pain but the pain of loss is often the greatest and you have lost so much. It is good to vent and I think most of us understand what you are experiencing, if not to the same degree.  The loss of your future is so hard. I just hope you can find some happiness in every day you still have ahead of you. That is what I want for all of us. That and a peaceful end.

Frustrating things to care about seem the norm with some strokes, Ray was the same. The things I thought important meant nothing to him, but some things had significant impact like car maintenance he would have me about.  I used to count to 100 a lot before speaking...lol.

Fantastic, so glad you managed to have the new hairstyle you wanted despite the effort it took to get it done. In a way that adds to the value of the deed. Good for you, you did it!!!! 

I hope you are better by Memorial Day, take things as easy as you can as stress is not good for you when you are sick.  You need to relax and if you can get some extra sleep.

What a great day and you deserve that and so much more. The two pairs a year sounds good. I wonder what other benefits you can get that you don't know about? I'm wondering if other veterans there can help you find out.

Add hugs from me. I am getting some disrespectful treatment because I am 70 so "possibly" senile in the eyes of those who are advising me. It is one way of those who feel nothing for others to cope, that give-it-here attitude and yes, I would get mad about it too. It is hard to be the good little Christian lady sometimes. I attempt it but often don't succeed So it is chin up and on we go with our life. (((Hugs))).

I too suffer from somethimg similar, it comes from doubting your own capacity to do something. It is called the imposter syndrome. I get to do somethimg, it goes well, someone mentions that so and so did it but much better. That stops me in my track and if I have to do the same thing again I think I am only allowed to do this because so and so isn't here. That makes a real impact on my life , I felt that way when I took over as Blog Moderator from you Asha. There are all kinds of roadblocks in our lives and sometimes we build them ourselves. So Tracy's idea of cognitive therapy sounds a good idea.

I think a compression stocking is the answer, they can come in pretty colours too. I understand you longing for pretty shoes, I do too but can't wear some of mine with the stocking which is thick at the heel and not very flexible at the ankle. However I wore red shoes to church today and felt great.😍

It is good to have a special treat, especially a freshly picked piece of fruit, glad it happened to you Pam. May many more opportunities come your way.

Ray had to have new brace when he lost weight as the old one moved awkwardly resulting in a ulcer on his heel that took a long time to resolve. These things happen partly because of the little time staff have to really observe the patient, when a shower is a splash and dash affair. Ask staff to please look at skin condition etc when they shower him. You take time for yourself too my friend.

Little things mean a lot when they add value to your life. Paying it forward is the way to go, we all have something we can give. (((Hugs)))

George congratulations on embarking on what looks like a great adventure, hope it is the trip of a lifetime. You have had a stroke but after much struggling now live a good life. Bravo! Now my friend give us some pleasure following your adventures by blogging from time to time and if you can add pictures that would be a bonus for me. Love to Lesley and her Mum.

Happy Mother's Day Asha, being content with what you have is the secret to a good life.

The generous gift Dan and your family in consenting to the donation has created is it's own legacy. It is a great tribute to Dan and to you that the gift has brought new life to others. Sarah your son had a good example of that during his upbringing. I am so glad that brought you some happiness.

Kelli I hope you are right and it becomes routine. If there is nothing I can do about it I will just have to get used to it.

Heather, the problem with getting the stocking wet is that it will chafe the edge of the scar behind my knee which is 9cm in diameter, quite a big wound, and with quite a bit of nerve damage around the rim. I can pack it with cotton pads for day wear but that would present another possible problem. I will work on finding a solution though, I am sure to find some kind of gel pad that fits the space.

(((hugs))) Tracy, I have been experiencing some setbacks recently myself. All we can hope is that things improve.

My husband used to cheat when he had a blood sugar test by hardly eating anything the day before so his clever doctor would do a test in his rooms - whoops!  I used to tell him "your body will always make a fool of you"...lol.

(((hugs))) all we can do is supervise the care our loved ones receive as much as we are able to. No guilty feelings my friend you have always done your best for Dan. 

It is over five years since Ray died,  I still long for that life,  bad as it was. There is no getting over some of our feelings, we just have to live with our own uncertainty and insecurity. 

Kelli, don't know how long it took for me and my older son to get to understand each other, he is mid forties now and we are still working on it. Glad you're back home, you just did what you had to do, leave it at that.

Pam acceptance is not easy, it is a constant struggle but sometimes the best things come after a long struggle. (((Hugs)))

Sorry you have a painful knee. I've had some pain recently after the operations and know how it tends to take the sunshine out of life. Hope you find some workable solutions. The brace sounds like a good idea but would be restrictive in some ways so maybe some physio would be needed as well.

The only way I know would be to copy and paste the entire  contents from the blog set ups you don't want to keep into the one you want to keep and then delete them from the old blog entry by entry but  then you would lose the comments.Alternately you could just copy and republish on the preferred blog those entries you see as important with a historical note e g this was first posted  on 4th September 2016.