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Bill,

Sorry you're feeling so bad and having a rough time. Ditto what the other ladies said. Better days are coming and you know we'll be anxiously waiting for the scoop.

Maria

Marie,

Sorry I missed your first chat. I was dragged along with my husband to go suit shopping under the guise of his wanting my opinion and input, of which of course I was permitted none. I was allowed to pick out some socks, so bone tossed.

I'm sure it was a great success. You have the key element - a winning personality!

My suggestions are more along the lines of support related themes. In which case I would suggest looking over the board to see issues that appear to be hot or most prevelant and offer a specific chat based on that issue. For example families not understanding seemed to be big about 2 or 3 weeks ago. The major issues are always there and will cycle. Newbies will come for help veterans will come to offer support and share. You can also look through Classic Postings and Advice for major common issues although as a 24 year survivor I'm sure you know them quite well.

I already got tickets to your next...wouldn't miss it.

Maria

Cathy,

The issue I have with food now is that as a result of stroke it is just another thing that has taken control and taken advantage of my vulnerability. I never really had to watch what I ate because I always was active, able to exercise and burned it. I don't like the idea that I have to make meal choices based on my ability to burn them. I was never a comfort food person so fortunately I don't have that issue. I think the being thin part feels good but more than that I think it feels good to be in control of yourself. I bet you felt good about yourself when you made it to curves 4 days in a row. Being down in the dumps is usually a byproduct of feeling badly about yourself and constantly letting yourself down will do that. It becomes a vicious cycle. Having a doctor precribe drugs or having surgery might give you the end result weightwise, but it won't enable you to regain and earn the self respect you acquire through the self discipline it takes to get there. Sorry...not what you wanted to hear. You need to set small realistic goals you can attain put your mind to it and stick to it. In the end nothing will give you greater comfort than feeling good about yourself.

Congrats on your upcoming new addition.

Maria :friends:

Sue,

Despite the challenges of handling life out of your element it sounds as though it was well worth it.

We miss you much here sweet lady. Thanks for taking the time to tell us about your trip albeit you're tired.

Enjoy your upcoming visit.

Maria :friends:

Katrina,

Sorry to hear you fell. Sounds like a good guy behind you to pick you up if you fall- where he belongs.

Living on campus makes a world of difference socially and probably will be a big help with doing books too.

Can't help with the colonoscopy thing ~ haven't been that fun route yet. As the other ladies have said...the prep is probably worse than the test. On the upside a good flush has to be worth at least 2 or 3 pounds.

Good luck with the test, hope your knee feels better, and we still haven't seen pics of the cutie.

Love,

Maria :hug:

He's not saying I tawt I taw a puddy tat. He knows he saw one and he'll never forget it.

Can't blame him he was just trying to get in on the festivities. He thought it was a treat, but turned out to be a trick. He's determined now to get his Halloween beggar's share-afterall the rest of the kids did.

Have a happy halloween!

Maria

Kathy,

I'm sure your cupcakes turned out just as great as Elmo ~ sure that lost one wasn't a taste test

It's great that you're getting out and doing things.

I'm sure Miss Kimmie didn't tell you to snap out of it...she has the warm fuzzy gene unlike other people you know.

No dipping in the bird bath chickadee.

You'll do just fine with Barry away, you're far more capable than you give yourself credit for.

Love,

Maria :friends:

Doug,

I somehow sense Doug goes where Teddy can take him and your afternoon outing is the highlight of both your days.

Nothing like new places to sniff and explore, mark your spot, and declare the entire complex as yours! Teddy Rules! Don't be surprised if he has his friends write to management for a name change to Teddy's Terrain. ~ he already has them paying for the favor of a pet with treats. smart pooch.

Thanks for the Teddy anedote, he's always fun to hear about.

Maria :friends:

Katrina,

Girls like your best friend are a dime a dozen and they just don't seem to get that I love you and I'm mistreating and want to control you just don't match up. Ther low self esteem keeps them hanging on to the hope that they can change them. This reverts back to your question about no one loving you before you can love yourself and my prior lecture.

Fortunately you have self esteem, you're smart enough to steer clear of guys like him and he's shrewd enough to see it. Why do you think he wants her no where near you? Try not to be hurt by it honey, it's not personal. It's codependency and she has an addiction which her low self esteem does help her break free of. He says he's sorry and she actually believes that because she needs to-it's her fix. Not really much different than an alcoholic or drug addict. She may one day hit bottom and sadly that usually comes for these girls when they land in the hospital after "he goes psycho" and tosses her a good beating.

Hopefully that's before he gets her pregnant- they're usually good at trying to establish a permanent tie first.

When a guy cares about you he doesn't make excuses, ask you to give up your friends, change, or do anything to make him happy- HE TRIES TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. First red flag run fast there's always another one. That's the outlook and attitude about guys you can have when you have self esteem sweetheart, which you have. Never ever settle ~ or let anyone pull you down with them remember miser loves company.

Working with at risk kids can be very emotionally taxing so your transportation issues may be a bit of a Divine Intervention buffer for a bit. We're all still praying for you about your license.

I'm glad you had a good time at the parade and great anniversary. You deserve it! I got so fed up with myself for forgetting the camera that I got a small one to carry at all times- now I forget to charge it. Can't win.lol

Somebody from the crowd often has pictures to share, if so please post them.

Love & smooches,

Maria :hug:

Doug,

As a teacher I can vouch for the fact that it's a near impossibility to get parents to see, let alone admit their children's faults it is like shoveling sludge against the tide. They in turn become defensive and attempt to deflect blame on us or others. Enablers (They enable their kids to never take responsibility) They knows and always have. You're wasting too much energy on something you'll never get them to admit.

By the way... what are Teddy's latest escapades? Any girlfriends?rabbits? combos of the two? we haven't heard about him in a while.

Be well,

Maria

Donna,

Through this all you're worried about informing us? I knew you wanted to do this, but didn't think you'd be ready for it for some time. Don't beat yourself up about having moved back. It wasn't as though you knew and chose to ignore it. You know as we all do if it had been known that she was ill you would have been there all along. You can't change that. You did make amends and let her know you loved as did Kristi before you lost her. She possesses greater wisdom now than when on earth. She knows the beauty that lies within your heart as do we.

I know how important it is for you now to get Angel here not only for Angel, but as a means of doing it in memory of your mom. Don't worry somehow we'll figure it out, we'll get her here.

Right now work on unfrazzling your nerves. Take the Ativan and try to get sleep, relax, no Pepsi.

I love you,

Maria

Congrats on Tootie's ribbon, great pumpkin. :clap:

What a wonderful idea on the part of Taylor's school to combine Red Ribbon Week with Halloween, most schools don't. Doing so make it fun to be involved in an important campaign that they could have easily tuned out. :SLEEPING:

Looking forward to the pictures.

Maria :hug:

Is Taylor more partial to one of the two? I always tried to go for costumes that weren't so cumbersome that my kids spent didn't most of Halloween trying to keep themselves assembled.How about a ride to the costume store where she can lokk around a bit, have some input, and will inevitibly pick out the most expensive costume which of course you know you'll buy.

Maria :friends:

Marie,

Thanks

I can get most things done. I'm just a bit too

fastidious and want things to come out as they

always did.

I may just need tips for the terminally tight.

Maria

Yolie,

I'm sorry to hear that Taylor' medication has increased. Try not to be too disheartened she still very well may outgrow them. Keep hoping and we'll all keep praying. She's far too young to discount that she hasn't outgrown them.

Love,

Maria :hug:

Sue,

You're not an old lady who doesn't give up-just determined and dedicated. We're having Sue withdrawals too!

You may give us up for a technology or appliance support group, but you know we'd never give you up. We would find you and reclaim you.

Very nice of your sister to do that. Lends new meaning to don't show up empty handed. Most visitors bring a little treat not a major appliance, but sweet none the less.

You're so right chat is an excellent means of support especially for newbies and you are a Godsent voice of understanding and comfort to many. Don't fret you'll be up and running in no time.

Love,

Maria :hug:

Leah:

Hope you enjoyed your trip. It wipes you out, but it's worth it, by the time you get home you need another one!

You'll be an old pro at your new program in time.

Maria

Doreen,

Glad you enjoyed your break. We'd loved to see the pictures.

I'm sure Bill and Steve enjoyed their male bonding time. Great plan woman put them to work! Boys are always best kept busy-keeps 'em out of mischief :yukyukyuk:

Maria

I'm with you on most of them. I especially dislike #4. Somewhere along the way you must have had an insidious teacher like me who used #8 as a way to get a class' attention quickly.

So I replace #8 with noisy classrooms.

Maria

What's to pity sweetheart? Your strength, intelligence, inner and outer beauty? I see all of your victories right down to the challenge you emerged victorious through the past 2 weeks. Don't sell yourself short that comes from the inner beauty you elude that others can see and are drawn to. It's clear as day right through cyberspace. Have a great weekend babe, you deserve it!

love & smooches,

Maria

WOW!!! Gotta tellya chicklet I had chills halfway through reading it and was crying by the end. Not all angels fly and wear wings sweetheart. God works in mysterious ways . You are probably an angel sent to him too. If things were hunky dorey again this year you might not have been there to be his angel ~ mysterious ways. You have to trust that if you leave your life in His hands He always has a plan and will always take care of you in His time. Don't forget about us and be a flat leaver now that you have better things to do.

Smooches,

Maria :friends:

Kristen,

Aha another who knows the secret of the tall skinny vanilla latte - skim milk, sugar free vanilla syrup, throw in a couple of splendas, tastes like the real thing and all for just 90 calories!

you're pictures are gorgeous and all I needed to get me started again. My husband and I spent a week in Colorado in August. We came home with me asking when we could put the house on the market and flooding his work email with realty listings. He finally managed to get me off that kick, but your pics are all I need to put me hot on thr trail again.

Happy belated anniversary

Doug,

I love your aka definition of narcissistic personality disorder - nut case. The problem with them is that they are so self absorbed and self rightous that they blame everyone else for the messes they make in their own lives as a result of their own acts of selfishness which is where your concern for retaliation comes in. His type is not uncommon and fairly easy to peg by those in positions of authority if he's in some type of trouble. Chances are in his arrogance he'll overestimate himelf and resort to the same manipulative tactics he's always used, but they won't work with them. Don't be surprised if you're happy you didn't defect and you're here to see it.

It's great that you're in counselling. Stick with it, it will help a lot.

Kat,

You are not an ingrate. Most of us don't appreciate what we have. Part of that is that I think we are almost taught to equate appreciation with a feeling of happiness and euphoria and when we attain something and that doesn't happen, we feel like we should feel happier as a sense of appreciation. Unfortunately that does not always happen because most times we've built up whatever it was in our heads so much that it isn't that we don't appreciate it. It's more that it isn't what we had built it up to be. So you're not an ingrate, you may just be trying to find happiness in places it may illude you. You can't go through life saying "I'll be happy when..." First, You'll get so conditioned to always looking for the next when, you'll miss out on the present moment. Secondly, by doing that you're always focused on the negative. I always try to look at rough times as symptomatic of the time. Everything is months or maybe even sometimes a year away from looking back upon and thinking ick glad that's over. Things change, life goes on and things brighten up again....just like that poof you're happy again. It might not be what you think you want, but you might be surprised that may just not be what will make you truly happy anyway.

As long as you know you did your best on your mid-terms, which I'm sure you did, that's all that matters. What is also relative is what they were in.

BTW-What is your major? I don't remember you ever telling us.

Great job with the walk. I'm sure you were an inspiration to many as always!

Try to stay awake through Dracula- it's a little(okay very)dry. Did this guy think timing it around Halloween might make it more appealing? NOT

Blog til your little fingers are sore. Do we seem like we mind?

Maria :hug:

Yolie,

Your killing me with these pictures. I don't know if I can handle all the cuteness.

A ballerina, cheerleader, gymnast and now equestrian-as that cuteness keeps evolving you'll be posting America's next top model.

Thanks it always makes my day to see new pictures of Taylor's smiling little face.

Love,

Maria :hug: