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Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday dear Sue, Happy birthday to you.

Lynn

Sue,

I love your blogs they are so down to earth. Keep it up.

Lynn

V,

Come and join me and we can party together. :beer: I know how you feel and like me you deserve a pity party. Some days it just never seems to end and there is always something that needs to be taken care of. Don't you just wish we could do one of those Queen for a day things and someone would wait on us and take care of everything? Dreams can't hurt. Hang in there.

Lynn

Thanks Everybody, I really appreciate all your thoughts

I was really down and in a lot of pain. I hate taking the pain pills and I guess I waited too long to take them. I decided today to take them regularly from now on and not to wait till I am in pain. I have been talking to people to get some help. I have spent so much of my time being independant. I think I have to learn to trust that some people will come through. I just wish I could talk to Rod and he could help me make decision like he use to.

Lynn

Kim,

You are worth your weight in gold. We have had the all the other waitress you speak about including this past weekend. We need more like you.

Lynn

V

I think that is a terrific idea. Having been a business owner I know what it's like trying to find good people. Sometimes people with medical problems are so afraid they don't have a chance. Good luck I hope she works out for you.

Lynn

Sandy,

I'm with you and my cat would agree. I have been married twice and I have been a caregiver twice, I am begining to see a pattern. The next time I am going to take care of me and my cat. That rocking chair in assisted living really sounds like a plan, we just have to make sure the attendants are worth pinching.:roflmao:

Lynn

Hi V

Our son put us through that once. I have never been more emotionally sick except when Rod had his stroke. Kids, gotta love them. Then they grow up have there own and have the same thing happen to them, it's called pay back. I'm glad everything turned out OK. You will sleep once your nerves are no longer in over drive.

Lynn

Butch,

Reading this really made me realize I am not alone. It was one of the toughest decisions I have ever made and like your situation Rod too was more alert the next day and was allowed to make his own decisions by shaking his head yes or no. He did tell me later he does not remember anything from the regular hospital either. I am sure this was a very hard thing to write. Thanks for sharing.

Lynn

Sue,

I am so glad you guys have a great time. I thought you were worrying over nothing. It even sounds like your going to be even busier than before. Enjoy your new church.

Lynn

I love your new rule. Really good friends are hard to find and terrible to lose.

Lynn

You have had a rough year. I think you deserve a pity party once in a while it helps to put things in perspective. Sounds like your Mom is moving forward and when your ready you will too. It hard to deal with the emotions of watching ones parents getting to the point of needing help. Deep down we just want them to be around forever. I have just come to that realization recently it's a sad and scary thing to deal with. Venting away I am listening.

Lynn

Sue,

If it raining, it's pouring, especially when you have so many things to do. Things will get better, the rain will go away and the sun will come out, and now you have a chance to make new friends. Look at the church closing as a new door to open, you may get some really nice new friends out of this. You seem to be a very outgoing person but, take time for yourself, I know it's a hard thing to do. You can't always wear your wings :Angel:

Lynn

Bill,

It sounds like you had a really good day. My husband would love to be able to do that. He keeps bugging me to get approved to drive again. I am sure your wife worries a bunch. Each time you do go out by your self it will get easier. Be proud of your self this is a big step in your recovery.:beer:

Lynn

You deserve a big Congrats. Not many people in this day and age make it that long. Too many forget the line and in sickness and health. Have a really great day on Saturday.

Lynn

Hi Ken,

Welcome, you have found a great site to talk to people in the same boat as you. My husband stroked 3 years ago May. Same thing major surprise. He was considered healthy. Thats just the way it goes. You are making progress and you will continue to, it just takes time.

Again Welcome

Lynn :hiya:

I was worried about you and Ray. Glad you were not in the middle of that. There sure seems to be some wild weather around this year and now they are saying it may get worse. Thanks for letting us know what is going on.

Lynn

Are we sisters and I just didn't know it? Your mother sounds just like mine. I do the same thing as Sue, yes mom....They really do mean well. I have told my daughter to shoot me if I ever do that to her, so far so good. Hope you get some rest, I just got done going through a bout of not being able to sleep which in turn gave me headaches from lack of sleep. The nights can be pretty long when that happens. Feel better.

Lynn

I agree with Kristen. I love reading your posts. Ray has a very special lady as his caregiver and wife.

Lynn

It's getting expensive for the tooth fairy to come; for us it was 50 cent to 75 cents. My oh my, how the world changes. I can't wait to see what it will cost my daughter. Enjoy your children they grow up so fast

Lynn

Welcome Bill,

My husband had a stroke 3 years ago and he is getting better all the time. This is a great place for your wife too. We are glad we found this board too.

Lynn

Sue,

I would go over that persons head to their boss. Carpentry what in god's name is that person thinking. That person has to be accountable to someone. I would make an appt and say everything that you are saying here. What have you got to loose. The only one who is going to fight for you and Ray is you. I would give them all a piece of your mind and then some about the situation. Their job is to help you which they don't seem to be doing!

Lynn

Sue,

I am lucky because Rod can stay alone during the day and I can work. It gives me some time away. The rest of the time I am home. I couldn't stand dealing with people who weren't caregivers who thought they really knew how to handle everything. It took me three years to get to the point that I am not tired all the time. Now with my back problem It will start again. We are a tough lot aren't we.

Lynn

Sue,

You will do fine on making the decisions. You been making them along without thinking. I had to buy a car right after Rod came home and I let him help in the decision. What a mistake but, you learn from these mistakes. Do what your doing take your time, think about what you need it to do. It's scary when you were not the one making those choices before. I have learned so much in the last three years I amaze myself sometimes but, you know it's still scary every time I have to make a decision even to this day.

Good luck on your car hunting.

Lynn

HI Sue,

I too love your blogs, just remember when one door closes another will open. It's still sad to see that happen though. Cherish the time that is left. Hope both you and Ray are doing well.

Lynn