justsurviving

Although I am not a caregiver nor needed care for an extended amount of time, I can still wholly relate to your blog, just in a different way.

I have lost myself as well. I was confident - walked with confidence, spoke with confidence, knew myself with confidence - until das stroke (I like to refer to it with an evil accent). I only wish I could break with it for a week or two so that I could find my lost me. What a great opportunity for you to reconnect with her and learn to keep her around. :Clap-Hands:

you are welcome to surpass me - try a tandem bike with someone heavier and more skilled than you on the front seat - great way to get balance back and to "get back on the horse"

I had a TIA at the starting line of the 10k race...stroked a few hours later.

Thankfully, we aren't in another country - our military has fought for the protestor's right to disagree.

Fabulous!

Good to hear - keep it up. :Clap-Hands:

:giggle: Thank you!

Asha - Bob is my husband, I also had a friend there - Carol, I should specify.

A new name...I should come up with that - do I need to create a new account for that?

I can't imagine what that must be like right now. I too like the state of denial - forgetting that I stroked and wanting to just be normal - work normally, retire normally.

I feel your frustration mostly because of your eloquent writing ability.

Good luck to you in the war of the papers.

I live in Orlando and recognize Mark's name although I don't know if I could pick him out of a crowd...

What a fabulous event - I wonder if there will be another anytime soon as I didn't know about this one.

We do need a representative for strokers - STROKERS UNITE!! :Clap-Hands:

Thank you for the interesting blog.

It may be one of those things that you just don't feel happening - you don't just wake up one day and say "wow, I feel okay now. I forgive her" It is so gradual a process that you might not notice it unless someone brings it up to you.

Take care!

Considering the amount of time that you and Ray spend together, it is only natural that you may feel a twinge of guilt. Recognize it for what it is and let it go. It is clear that you know it is best for both of you to have this time. I hope you enjoy it.

:2cents:

You make fall sound fabulous - my favorite is spring with the early, bright sun, new flowers, and 'cleanness' of it all...but you do make a convincing case!

There are actually more than one way to encode information into memory - repitition is one of them but another is by making the information important or meaningful to a person. Repitition is easier when you have memory problems to begin with (at the start of my stroke, for instance).

We are in the same place. I don't like it much & I hope I don't stay like this forever.

Sue,

Interesting - I seem to have adapted more or less right now, not that I like or accept it, but I have a really difficult time remembering how I was pre-stroke.

Robyn,

I really do. We were high school sweethearts and our dads worked together so we have known each other since we were very young. Although I am really lucky, I don't know how lucky he got :big_grin:

Do you know what 'tuway' means?

That is a heck of a rough day - please tell me you get some breaks, siblings? spouse/partner?

I am so jealous that you get to go to the UK - what fun! :Clap-Hands:

I will be oh-so-impatiently waiting for details, details, details!

Have a fabulous time. :oohlala:

Robyn,

Wow - that is a heck of a weekend that you have planned! Traveling with kids looks incredibly difficult - multitasking to the limit. :juggle:

Where in NY are you trying to sell? I lived in Binghamton (well, actually - Endicott but close enough) for 2 years in 1999/2000 & even then the market was saturated with too many houses and not enough buyers - it was (and probably still is) a very depressed area.

I wish you peace, happiness, and calmness for your trip.

Take care.

Awesome, Rich!

If you have never had a chemical stress test - be warned, it sucks for about 4 minutes and then gets much better. I didn't care for it but could do it again if needed.

Holy Unsupportive Support Group, Batman! :giggle:

Is there any other group in your area or that may be a bit of a drive and still worth it.

Darn I feel for you.

Considering the motivated people here who continue to see imrprovements years, much less months, later - don't give up hope.

I think that I am feeling and being particularly needy right now & I hate it . I was that way pre-stroke but now I just have something easier to blame than me!

Wow, Robyn - great way to think about it! Thank you for that.

2 1/2 weeks before the defense and I am working hard on revisions from my major professor. I swear this guy is a certifiable genius - I am always awed at his insight/suggestions. It is a lot though. I feel very overwhelmed right now (I know that is normal but I get freaked & stress too easily...plus I {obviously} don't handle stress well :blush: )

After the neuropsych tests - no therapy was recommended - it would probaby be an accupational therapist but won't be covered since no significant deficit found...

thank you though!

GAH. I am so sorry. I really had hope and belief (as dumb as that may sound since we have never met face to face). I am so sorry. Durn it.

I have no doubt in my mind that you will find what you are looking for and what you need and deserve.

Take care of you and yours.

I am so glad that you aren't giving up! :Clap-Hands:

Thank you for listening to what I needed to say without judgement, I appreciate that.

I am so torn when I read your blog.

On the one hand, thinking in terms of a normal, rational human being, I understand you completely.

On the other hand, as a stroke survivor, I scream DON'T GIVE UP ON ME JUST YET!

For the first few months after my stroke, I couldn't help but to think that Bob was much better off without me and I thought that me releasing him would be a huge favor to him. When we talked about it, I really needed his reassurance that he wanted to be with me no matter what. He had to reassure me A LOT. At first, I thought he was just saying it out of pity. I had to be convinced and it took quite a while. I'm not saying that it is identical to your situation with Jane, I am just giving my point of view and my experience.

I wish you, Jane, and your family well.

:hug: